This is EXACTLY what they are counting on you thinking
Substitute the word Narcissist with Conman, manipulator, player, taker, user, parasite. Perhaps this helps. You are still looking a him as if he is YOU. They are NOT like us. They do not think, feel, or behave as we do. You are trying to understand him through your lens. This will never work or happen. This will continue to keep you stuck.
The conman seeks out supply who are empaths and struggle to wrap their brains around what is being done to them by the conman.
The conman wants to use you and take from you and will create false persona's in order to get into your good graces and make YOU THINK they are just like you. They mirror back to you YOUR hopes and dreams. They give you what they think you want in the beginning in order to set up their target fot the CON.
Once they have you where THEY want you, they no longer need to try so hard. They have you thinking a certain way now and they can take whatever they want from you.
By the time YOU wake up and realize that you are the target of a con....
Either everything you have is gone; or they are gone.
They will keep this up for YEARS if YOU allow them to do so.
The only way to get this, is to STOP looking at them through your eyes, your lens and look at them for the 2 bit conmen that they are..
This may not be what you would do because you are not a con artist, yet, this is what THEY are and what THEY do.
This is NOT about understanding what YOU would do; this is about understand what THEY ARE DOING right in front of face.
ONce you see this, then you begin to realize that YOU do not need or want a blatant predator in YOUR life.
HE IS NOT who YOU thought he was, never was, and never will be.
YOU are the GOOD one; HE IS NOT.
YOU cannot change a bad person into a good one.
They are who and what they are.
This is no reflection on you, they were this way long before you came along and they will be this way long after you are gone.
THE TRUTH of who and what they are, WILL SET YOU FREE.
God bless,
Goldie
