THOUGHTS
Ok my question is if im still having conversations with my Narc in my head like im telling her off, is that like breaking NC I want the thoughts to go away.
Working the Steps?
Hello and welcome to The Path Forward. My name is Goldie and I am the forum's lead moderator. I am available to assist you with the 6 Steps of recovery from a relationship with a Narcissist. This process is often painful and many are left with unanswered questions and a sense of "What just hit me?" "How can I be feeling this badly when I was "so loved" in the beginning?" and "How can I get my life back on track and recover from this confusing, painful ordeal?"
You must remember you have done nothing wrong, but believe in the good nature of another person. Unfortunately, this person has shown their true colors and you are now left with many questions. This section of the forum is devoted to answering your questions because we know you have many.
Here we will talk about what it means to be "Working the Steps" and the different recovery tools we find helpful in healing from a relationship with a Narcissist. Allowing yourself to process and feel your emotions through creative outlets as well as writing your "Goodbye Letter" are important aspects of the 6 Step Recovery process we believe with help you on the path forward. Please post your questions here and I will respond. Many of the questions which you have will also be helpful to other members. We are glad you found our community of support and can assure you that being here is the first step on the Path Forward.
Members, submit your question to Goldie!
You must remember you have done nothing wrong, but believe in the good nature of another person. Unfortunately, this person has shown their true colors and you are now left with many questions. This section of the forum is devoted to answering your questions because we know you have many.
Here we will talk about what it means to be "Working the Steps" and the different recovery tools we find helpful in healing from a relationship with a Narcissist. Allowing yourself to process and feel your emotions through creative outlets as well as writing your "Goodbye Letter" are important aspects of the 6 Step Recovery process we believe with help you on the path forward. Please post your questions here and I will respond. Many of the questions which you have will also be helpful to other members. We are glad you found our community of support and can assure you that being here is the first step on the Path Forward.
Members, submit your question to Goldie!
co-dependency
So as not to focus on what the Narc did or didn't do to me and put the emphasis on myself and my healing do you have any good articles about co-dependency and how co-dependents allow Narcs to abuse them. I need to understand what part I played so I can work on that and stop focusing on him or becoming a victim.
Thanks.
Do narcs have feelings? I threw him out do you think he's furious over that?
I sure hope so - I sincerely hope so. I found out about his affairs on the internet, I suppose I was the "good clean girl" that he refused to have sex with at home.... do you think he's mad that I found out after I threw him out? He def knows I know. Thanks!
Narc child??? help
Is there a such thing as a narc child??? I have been married to a narc for the past 13 yrs. Just a few days ago discovered NPD existed! We have 3 kids together, our oldest is 6. He reminds me so much of my narc husband. He's only 6 and he is already complaining about everything & he loves to put words in my mouth just like his dad. It really breaks my heart just to think that he might end up being just like his dad. I believe my husband is a narc because it was passed down from his mother (although she is not as bad as him).
need some feedback please
This site has been so helpful to me. I read here all the time- I havent posted my story yet because I have been too sad to face it. But I have a question about "hoovering".
Kiss-off letter to N-mother
Should I write "kiss-off" letter to my N-mother about why I cut her completely out of my life this time? When she tried to contact me in March my husband stepped in this time and left her phone message not to contact us anymore which really pissed her off! She played message for just about everyone in family and started drinking again (she's also alcoholic) and blames my husband's message for her drinking which of course we know is ridiculous.
finding my posts
I post things and I would like to see if there are any reply however since the comment section changes frequently finding my post or if I even had a reply is impossible. How do I find the post I made to see if there has been any help for me? I try to look through 1-3, 4-6, share your story, and all the other listed areas of communication, however i can never find what I posted on the list, and I have posted so many things that I have no idea if anyone has responded to or not. In that, the site is not helpful to me.
NC while you share kids
I am trying very hard to have NC with my husband but We have a 5 year old son.
My husband took my son for the night and uses having him for an excuse to talk to me.
He has sent texts saying since you dont have Hayden (our son) you can whore it up!
Once i don't responded to that he later send a text saying We are at the movies and I got him a new hat. Trying a different method to get something outta me?
How do i handle this?
Help
I just left ex whom I was with for 5 years. In all the stories I have read he is a full blown narc.. Omg I FEEL so used . He was charging me 1000 rent when his house was paid off. My voice was never heard his way always he would always put me down. I also notice that he would go outside and talk to himself while smoking cigs. I must mention that his sister suffered from mental illness her entire life. Sad to say she passed away at age of 48 - 3 yrs ago , I must also mention that both his parents are descead he has no family.
How to deal with a Narc when you have kids
My husband and I have been separated for over a month now. We have a 5 year old son and I am 8 months pregnant with our second. I caught him cheating and left thinking he would follow and try to fix things, this is before I discovered he was a Narc.
He was lying the whole time telling me it was over between them and that he loved me but need some time to get things back on track before baby gets here. I believed him until I went to our house after he got of work and the OW was there!!!! All of mine and my sons belongs are still there! 3 hours before this he was texting me how much he missed me and our son!