Ever wonder why your guy can't seem to understand you?

Is he avoiding real intimacy?
Obsessed with his image?
Incapable of empathizing with you?

Well, when your man is a narcissist, it has nothing to do with you... It's All About Him.

Have you tried to return things to the way they were in the beginning of the relationship? Do you wonder what happened to the wonderful man you initially met?

What you need to understand is that if your man is a narcissist, he has perfected the art of charm and seduction and will use it to lure & win you over, secure your love and attention.

Unfortunately, once you commit to a narcissist, he no longer maintains this pretend image. You wonder what happened to the man you fell in love with, and try to figure out what you did to make things go so awry.

It is important for you to know, YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. Do not be upset with yourself for believing he was something he's not. Narcissists are brilliant actors, seducers and - yes, hypnotists and can win anyone over. They can appear fun, exciting and genuine. This is all an act.

Once you commit, however, this behavior ends. His true colors emerge. You no longer recognize the man you've committed your life to anymore. But now what? Now that you are in a serious relationship with him or perhaps even married, what should you do?

Well, the first thing you need to do is talk to others who understand what you're going through. The messageboard on this site is full of strong, intelligent, compassionate women who have been or are in a relationship with a narcissist and trying to break free and to make sense of it all.

My ex-husband joked from day one that he was a narcissist. I didn't think much of it. I knew he was confident and thought there was nothing more to it. It wasn't until eight years into our relationship and certain events occurred in my life that I finally looked into the true meaning of narcissism. What I learned changed my life. It helped me understand his behavior and realize I could do nothing to change it. In life, there are times when we must accept the fact that the only person we can change is ourselves.

My book is a quick-read to help you understand why a narcissist behaves the way he does, help you see if your man is a narcissist and what makes him tick. I believe once you understand your man, you will be better equipped to look at your relationship and make an honest assessment of it, and him -- as well as how to get away from this pathological person.

Narcissists are dependent on a significant other to provide the praise and admiration they crave. They are addicted to attention. Their life revolves around finding new ways to be noticed or recognized. Unfortunately, no matter what you do for a narcissist, it will never be enough.

A narcissist's life never measures up to the life he imagined for himself. He is out of touch with reality and eventually begins treating you as though he can hardly tolerate your existence. At the end of the day, you are merely there to stroke his ego if he doesn't get enough attention from the outside world. The rest of the time, he resents you for tying him down and has little respect for you because he is controlling, feels entitled and is covertly abusive to you.

I know what you're going through as do the many kind-hearted women on my messageboard. We want to help you understand why a narcissist does what he does. Most importantly, we want to help you realize you have done NOTHING wrong. It has nothing to do with you and it is in no way your fault! It's All About Him.

I believe anyone in the dating world should understand the implications of entering a relationship with a narcissist. Or if you are married, that is it nothing you did to make him act so badly. It is my hope that my book will help you recognize a narcissist before getting involved or to recognize what he is and take action to free yourself.

Take some time and go through the pages of our Message Board or read My Blog. Knowledge is power when dealing with a narcissist.

You cannot change a narcissist, but you can take steps to make changes in your life that will make you happier. I believe that is our goal... to accept what we cannot change and change what we can. We have the ability to grow and evolve, which is a beautiful thing. We are responsible for the choices we make in life and we can choose to be happy or we can choose to remain a victim. I choose to be happy and I hope you will join me in my journey.