my NARC was good at giving me the silent treatment if we had had a disagreement about something (and of course any disagreement brought about relationship ending threats). His behaviour has been so erratic and compulsive/impulsive (for example he sends me an email telling me he wants no contact whatsoever for a period of time, wants no type of relationship with me and will exercise his options to date others (he never cheated on my cause of his own sexual performance anxiety issues). So I read this email, feel totally devastated by it but I do not reply. He has said no contact. The next day, I get a text from him saying "hope you are ok, I didn't hear back from you re the email I sent" - WTF? Of course I engage back into the Ping Pong game and start the spin cycle all over again.
Do you think that part of the reason the NARC returns is because they think they are punishing you by no contact? I suspect this is the case with my NARC and although I am still at that stage where I am secretly hoping he contacts me (yes early days....I am getting there), I cannot imagine him staying NC from me?
Hi Fightingback