I haven't posted a blog in almost 3 years. In that time, it has been wonderful to see so many of you build awareness on narcissism through social media, word of mouth and even by writing your own books - Congrats to Shahida Arabi and Becky Joyce Reed on their books and a HUGE thank you and congrats to Goldie for continuing to help so many folks here through her one-on-one coaching!!!!
Narcissist Recovery Blog
Sometimes YOU are the last to know. Or you sense it, yet have no proof. Or you know it, yet choose to stay in denial. Or you find out and he promises to stop or change. Not likely in this life time.
Is your narcissist a sex addict and you don't know it or are in denial?
My narcissist never cheated on me is a common war cry on here.
Are you sure about this?
You don't need to SEE it happening to make it true.
Many narcissists are clever with keeping their sex addiction from you.
Often, you are the last to know.
Playing the God card and therapy with a narcissist:
Let's get real here, shall we?
"Do as say, not as I do." Sound familiar? "You need to be the perfect Christian wife or husband, I will do as I please." "I answer to no one, you answer to me (God)."
~A Christian marriage with a Narcissist~
So she thought she was special. Joyce Mitchell, was apparently made to feel special by convicted violent murderer and reported Psychopath , Richard Matt. So special that she considered assisting him, and may have, in his prison break with convicted law enforcement killer, David Sweat. The extent of her involvement is unknown at this time. See details below. These allegations are reported by CNN and the Daily Mail, UK.
Are you "in love" with or related to a Toxic Narcissist?
"A brilliant invention for the busy Narcissist on the run." Now we have the text which disappears after reading. The narcissist was jumping for joy the day that app was launched. The players paradise, no longer will there be any evidence in print.
Text Messages, Romantic gestures? Lazy? Or MAJOR Red Flags. TEXTS do not = Love.
A TEXT Message is not a contract, commitment, date, gift, or proof of ones love and devotion.
It is a text. A few seconds out of someone's day.
Most likely they are avoiding OW (which is also you at times) while texting you. Or some other unsavory behavior.
Texting is one of a cheaters/players/Narcissists favorite tools.
Keeps YOU thinking he is connected to you, regardless to what he is actually doing.
Great sex does not necessarily always translate into two people in a deeply loving connection. This is clearly illustrated in the mixed messages, words not matching the actions, type of a relationship with a narcissist.
INTENSITY is often misinterpreted for many of us and perceived as a substitute for INTIMACY (love).
This intensity stems from the tension created in us by the narcissist. This tension is received in our bodies, minds, and hearts, as anxiety, emptiness, and pain triggered by the mind games (push/pull).
***** Greetings to all who land here. It was suggested that the following post I created in September of 2011 be made into a blog. The post was created after discussing the sex issue with a valued member who used to post quite a bit was helping another member who was struggling to understand the "sexual intensity" of the disordered experience. All sorts of lightbulbs clicked when the member offered her observations, and then even more lightbulbs clicked when I shared the observations with our lead moderator Goldie. It is my intention and hope that even more lightbulbs will click for members who read this. You can also access this entire blog and all of the numerous, numerous comments members have left on the 1-3 board. ********
Love (not) spinning, JUST GRINNING!
I simply would not take no for an answer.
On living with abuse and violence from the one you "love."
On the recent media blitz over WHY WE STAY:
The Narcissist's theme song and the Empath's Love Story of HOPE.....
Also a GREAT SONG/theme for the Narcissist's HOOVER, I LOVE you NOW BABY!!!!
Does he? Do Narcissist's love just ONE GIRL? Can a leopard change his spots? Are YOU holding out for this one in a million?
Fooled Around and Fell in Love
Jeffrey Bailey edited the lyrics
I must have been through about a million girls
I love 'em and I leave 'em alone
I didn't care how much they cried, no sir
Their tears left me cold as a stone
But then I fooled around and fell in love
It used to be when I'd see a girl that I like
I'd get out my book and write down her name
But when the grass got a little greener on the other side
I'd just tear out that page
Trust your instincts
Your instincts are your truth.
No, I did not say to trust your addiction.
We cannot trust our addictions, they are not our instincts.
Addictions take us to places of avoidance.
Instincts take us to a place of truth.
Generally when we find ourselves in an addictive state of any nature, food, people, shopping, alcohol, gambling, sex, toxic relationships, and so on, we are in avoidance mode.
Addiction = avoidance of generally pain and truth. Our honest true feelings and what we see.
The truth is too painful so we become addicted to avoid the truth.
Often it is said of addiction, is that the person has on their running shoe's.
And what are they running from?