Hi. It has been over a year since I was with the Narcissist. I have been dating someone for two months who I just ended it with because I believe he is also a Narcissist. My question is...Why do they target us? People say to me "Why do you keep picking these jerks?" Well the thing is I did not pick them. I was'nt even looking.
Can anyone relate?
Thanks
Narcissists appear in the news every day. Below is a link to a story describing a very well-known person as a narcissist. What do you think?
http://www.popeater.com/television/article/baldwins-name-is-psychotic-na...
I am a 30 years old man living in the middleeast. I am highly lovable, outgoing sociable and empathetic to the bone. Unfourtunatly I was married the traditional way(arranged marriage).The traumatized child I got married to was 25 years old.
The reason I said tramutized because she was just that. Her parents gave her away when she was only 8-months old.The new caretaker was her maternal grandmother who lived in a different city.she was the first born , she has 7 other siblings who lived with the parents.She only got reunited with her parents and siblings at the age of 18.througout our engagment and now 6 months of marriage , she always struck me as being, distant, slef-centered, self-entitled,grandoise, controlling
Thank you for creating this forum and helping to educate those of us who have been involved with a person with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
I've been learning about NPD for 5 years now, after being involved with 2 Narcissists. Learning about this disorder has been so empowering and the only way that I would have survived and ultimately gotten out of those 2 abusive relationships.
I appreciate all the info. I did not know what happened until I read a book with information on N 's and how to recognize them. I saw him so clearly. My life with him has been a living HELL. I hope some day to be rid of him. Thanks for your web site Annie
Its good to see another web site on Narcissism and the sooner more people learn about it the better off a lot of people will be. For me and my friend we are in serious relationships with N's (unfortunately they are closely related) and so we have first hand experience as to how impossible they are to try to treat as normal people and to have a normal relationship.
Most narcissists are not physical abusers, not life threatening, they are life and mind altering, you will never be the same. Psychological abuse is their weapon of choice, one of the most lethal forms of emotional abuse. It destroys, confidence, creativity and individuality.
We are told we shouldn't feel the way we feel
We are dictated not to feel the way we feel
We are told we are too sensitive too dramatic
We are ignored
We are judged
I have been married to him for 7 years....it's a total horror story and will take a large amount of time and effort to tell the whole story. As everyone says, it started out to be wonderful....I thought we were made for each other. Talk about love being blind! I should have gotten the first clue when he was offended by a woman at my church who told me about how she was physically abused after her marriage and how careful I should be. He said to me "I would NEVER do that" then when we got back to my house, he wanted to go home because he did not feel comfortable after hearing that!! I actually talked him out of it like a fool!
Originally posted by: luckyme392002 on Jan 18, 2008, 2:07pm
I am in a relationship with a guy who is a narcissist. He told me this about a year ago...it's been hard and it seems that he never gives a hoot. I feel very unloved and lonely. Yeah, he cares, but I don't think he knows what love is. I am 23 and so is he but things have gotten way out of control. I am not sure how to handle all his behaviors because we've been thru so much togther.
Originally posted by: Guest on Sept 21, 2007, 12:17pm