The Path Forward Forum

This website is so upbeat and strong compared to other places I have found on the internet. I love it! The realization that he was drawn to my strength and at the same time needed to destroy me as he got bored really makes a lot of sense to me. I'm not a victim because I'm weak but because I'm very loving, generous, bright but gullible.

Here's my story:

My ex-fiance cut me off exactly three weeks ago with an email informing me that he is now involved with someone else. "Please do not attempt any further contact" and he disconnected his phone. He said that he had met her first a year ago on a business trip and she didn't believe who he was (he's not anybody famous just had an interesting job) but later emailed him when she saw his picture on the internet.

Okay, so I was involved with a narcissist... the classic, charming type. We were soulmates, then we weren't. Just to be clear to those of you have been cheated on, I don't think affairs are okay or anything...something I thought I would never ever do...but after 15 years of emotional abuse from my alcoholic husband, I was ripe for one I guess. And Mr Perfect sure seemed like the answer... The sad thing is I see now how he took advantage of how vulnerable I was. The happy thing is he really changed my life for the better overall, because he gave me love and hope and I started to stand up to my H...it hurt when he broke my heart, but I was not going back to the way life was, either.

Is it absolutely IMPOSSIBLE for a narcassist to care about you at all?

If so, why do they do anything to please you?

I'm finding it very helpful to tell stories and hear feedback. This is my story - it's long and painful to read so I understand if you just move on from here! It's helpful for me to write it out.

On Nov. 16, 2008 I found a text message on my husband's cell phone. It said, "I need it baby, I gotta have it. Gimme more. I love it. I need it. I want it."

God spoke to me that morning and said, "Get that phone in your hands." I've never snooped in his phone.

I crumbled. My daughter (age 4) was spending the night with a friend. I screamed, "What is this?" He threw back the covers and tore the phone from my hands, "I told you I was going to hurt you!"

Hello everyone. So glad to have found this website. And looking very forward to reading Lisa's book.

There's a hole my sidewalk (A Poem)

Chapter One
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost .... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter Two
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend that I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter Three
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter Four
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Sorry girls, but today it is....a day. I need to hear that HE will be judged and condemned for breaking the law, for spying on me and on my things for more than a year, for using all the info for manipulating me..... I live in a country where the medium time for a legal action is 2 years! I cannot wait that long! I am ANGRY! He spat on me arriving to type the name of his new girlfriend in place of my name in my email account......he has cracked my email again just to laugh in my face and in face of my reports. I am angry!

Ok, sorry to have to bring this up, but I can't resist. Did anyone follow the Bachelor this last season? Is this guy a narcissist or what?!

Did he have to break up with Melissa on national television? He has absolutley no empathy and is so addicted to the attention he is getting off this show that he could care less how his actions affected anyone last night.

I love youtube...anyway...music speaks like nothing else, for me at least...So I started this thread for songs we like.

This post is about the stages of a relationship with a N.

The beginning..(of lies) one of "our songs" awwww...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=alwEQVjA6io

The middle...(the beginning of understanding)I felt like dying.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7onMYUcdL04

The end (the beginning of freedom)

Hi Everyone,