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The worst thing he said to you

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Jun 25 - 8PM
narcsurvivor
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Here's a sampling of what my

Here's a sampling of what my prince charmer liked to dish out to me: "I really don't get you. You do not know how to treat a man, or do things for a man, even if you don't want too. Thats a horrible quality to have, especially if you plan to marry someone one day. I could imagine how much worst things can be." "The way u act, are reasons why men and women break up, or get divorced. I want a women, that no matter what situation shes in, she always take care of her mans needs. And would do whatever it takes to make him happy, even if she isn't in the mood. This person is not you. Thats one quality that i can't deal with, and really annoys me. The other problems i can somewhat deal with." "Or maybe u should go find that perfect man u want, since i'm obviously not good enough to be him, according to your text messages last week. Maybe u should date other people, so u can see how valueable i really am." "But for now, we need to be away from each other. I love you, but you got some annoying issues with men." And damn it to hell, but I just broke NC of 4 months!!! I just had to email him about a crisis happening in my life right now because I knew he would be the only one who wasn't going to sugar coat it and not tell me I'm guilty or it's my fault. Oh well:(
Jun 25 - 8PM
NancyM
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Hmmmm

Too many to list, some are already posted by others but i will go with my first N experience. On asked why he had suddenly gone off sex..."You know what us guys are like, we get tired of slamming away at the same piece of meat" Daily expression"All women are evil cheating conniving whores!" On leaving him "You know what makes me really mad about you leaving me? I am the one that trained you. I have done all the work to train you and some other prick is going to get the benefits" Lovely guy...

Nevergoback

Jun 26 - 8AM (Reply to #52)
Goldie
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Oh and we don't buddy

Hi, I was laughing in horror over this guy's nerve. Then I thought, he was too stupid to sensor his thoughts like many guys would, he basically gave you the heads up into his mind which is a big gift cuz then you know for sure if you may have had any doubts, what's up. I can remember being slammed when I was tired thinking, is this guy EVER going to finish, so getting slammed all night is not always the hirvana for us that they imagine it to be. I love how these Np's say how awful it is to be with us but it's a real picnic for us to listen to their stupidity, ridiculous sexual desires, boring past gf crap and all the other nonsense. How about what we do: Oh yes honey you are the best, and listen to their ramblings with feigned interest. Are they so stupid as to think that we hang on their every work like we're listening to someone intelligent and worldly. Oh and ty for "training" me so well cuz now I know to stay away from freaks like you.
Jun 26 - 11PM (Reply to #53)
NancyM
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true

I was very young when this one happened and he let the mask slip all the way off after I was about 6 months pregnant. He was relentless over everything, I had to account for every second of my day, every dollar I spent, and constant rage. I guess leaving him I was running for the life of my child rather than for my own. He was the whole psychopath deal and I did not need to know about Ns to figure that one out. Unfortunately the Ns in my life after that seemed tame by comparison so I still had a lot to learn.

Nevergoback

Jun 25 - 5PM
Susan32
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Playing the victim

After the D&D- "You want to be the teacher!" (how relevant, considering how much I've read up on the pathological immaturity of Ns and Ps) "You're imposing on me! You're violating my privacy!"-How my ex-P reacted to my congratulations on his betrothal. I wanted to tell him he was giving himself bad juju, he was jinxing myself. It REALLY bothered me how he coldly referred to his girlfriend/fiancee by her surname, in such a proper, emotionless way. It was chilling. "I'm not your puppet"-When I was telling him to apologize. He'd repeat "you were inappropriate" like a broken record. He liked the idea of me dying of a broken heart for him, sicko... I'm ALIVE, and that's the sweetest torture I can inflict on him! Apparently he had told some of his young male disciples (when I was in his freshman lab class) that he wanted me to drop dead. Little did I know that being ALIVE was the best revenge, best served chilled.
Jul 1 - 11AM (Reply to #50)
calamity-g
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playing the victim

Susan32-- The nasty narcissist I knew offered to come and help me kill myself. I told him I was depressed. He said he was considering shooting himself, which I didn't believe. Then he said he would come here and help me die. Said, "It wouldn't bother me if you died. I would help you with that anytime... No it wouldn't bother me at all," he added. I had not told him I wanted to die but the opposite, that I wanted to live. This was our last conversation, 8 months ago, but I shall never forget it. This guy is 63 years old and a life ins. agent! They are freaks! Nasty sick cruel freaks! ~~~~~~~~ My Blog

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Jun 25 - 9AM
rhiannon
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This is more of a "worst

This is more of a "worst thing he did to you," but, I'll never forget the time we were eating lasagna for dinner and listening to the iPod. I was apparently changing the songs too often for his liking, so he grabbed the iPod, yanked the cord from it, and threw it in my food (causing sauce to splatter all over me). He then proceeded to get furious with me because I didn't want to eat my dinner.
Jun 24 - 10PM
enoughalready
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worse things said

"I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you"!
Jun 24 - 8PM
jennie160
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There are so many

Toward the end out our relationship we weren't having sex anymore because I didn't want to be forced to do anything I didn't want to do anymore so he tells me that if I didn't have sex soon he didn't know how long he would be able to keep treating me nice. He constantly made me feel like I was the crazy one even though know I realize I was the sane one. He would constantly call me throughout the day to check in on me and if I didn't answer he would accuse me of having an affair but when I would call him and really need him for something, like my car wouldn't start, I would have no right to get mad when he didn't answer. He would throw temper tantrums if I wanted to go see a friend or my parent and say that I never spent time with him even though all he did was play computer games all day. When I was getting ready for a job interview he got upset because I was getting dressed up and putting on make-up. He told me that if I wanted to go out with friends he had to meet them first to "approve" of them. He would ask me for my opinion on something but them would always argue with me about it. When I gave up on giving my opinion he would get mad at me for not giving it. He got mad at me one time when we were at the movies because I didn't tell him I was going to the bathroom even though I looked right at him and told him I was going. He was snoring one night and I got sick of it so I went to sleep in the spare bedroom and he got pissed because I had. He looked through my texts and got mad when he saw a text from a male coworker even though it was work related. He "jokingly" threatened to rape me when we were in the middle of the grocery store. After I had left and filed for divorce he told me to "be careful there are worse guys out there than me"
Jun 24 - 10PM (Reply to #46)
Lisa E. Scott
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jennie160

OMG! Talk about mind f@#ck! Your ex sounds relentless! So glad you got out of that madness!
Jun 24 - 7PM
betty2020
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He told me after he hooked

He told me after he hooked up with the OW that "you are an ex for a reason". Really? Thats strange because I am the one who walked out on you remember? YOU are an ex for a reason. Idiot.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Jun 23 - 7PM
TNR1
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During D&D...

Mr. N commented "You should become my friend on Facebook. Then you could write about what a great fuck I am on my wall."
Jun 23 - 7PM
not-an-idiot
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There are so many.

There are so many. According to him I am: an idiot, the stupidest person on Earth, a cunt, bitch, needy, too sensitive, I will never understand him or his friends & how they are "cozy" (read: flirty and disrespectful as a result), I'm too negative, too unhappy. Well, Who is going to be upbeat and optimistic after being called everything one could imagine and knowing he lied about his interactions with a bunch of nasty and ugly females? There is so much more. Someday I'll write my story.
Jun 23 - 4PM
herlatestvictim
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If only the could not speak...

"If you looked in my iPhone you would kill yourself."
Jun 24 - 7PM (Reply to #41)
betty2020
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DICK!

DICK!

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Jun 23 - 4PM (Reply to #40)
rainbow1
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WOW! I am sure that you felt

WOW! I am sure that you felt really secure in your relationship after that!

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Jun 23 - 4AM
aceonelady
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the worst...

He said to me after D&D me after 10 hours from my arrival on the USA after 2 years of talking on Skype daily,chatting more then 16 hours a day,everyday,never missed 1 day(HUGE RED FLAGS)he just told me the to f***k me the had to think about something else,and that if he saw me walking on the street he even would't look at me...He told me i wasn't aloud to touch him...he told me that he was wondering how would be to have sex with a man....he told me he was gay,then he said he wasn't he just wanted me to get the hell away from him...he said he would like me to leave and if i asked him please take me to the airport then he would say see you don't get what you want so you are leaving,you are not my friend....he called me an ugly bitch...he told me he tought about killing me and then commiting suicide...he said he never did loved me that he was just f****G with my head...he told me he doesn't like me and that next time i go fly to the USA he hopes my plane crashes and that i am a loser...

Aceonelady

Jun 22 - 10PM
Happy1
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His biggest saying to me

His biggest saying to me when he gets mad when I stand up for myself is: "I'm not your puppet". When in reality he means I'm his puppet.
Jun 23 - 7AM (Reply to #37)
smileyfacepr
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Geez!!!

Mine told me the same thing once.." What? Am I ur puppet?" If our relationship was always going to be arguing the relationship wasnt worth it...Id ask if he metioned me to anyone he ran into that didnt know me and he would just say "NO" just like I didnt exsist...so if I didnt exsist when we were together y am I so surprised he has gone NC like if I never Exsisted....That hurts!!

smileyfacepr

Jun 22 - 8PM
broken23
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he didnt say mean things,

he didnt say mean things, just a liar, until the d&d occured at the end of each round. then he would find everything wrong with me. - youre selfish - youre uncaring what kind of a woman are you. you let me get wasted. i dont motivate him to be better - your hair is getting thin - most of the time youre too much - i dont care about his family - so what i slept with someone else, i was lonely, and you werent around - at my mom being sick...i cant be there for you, find someone else - at me being pregnant...get rid of it. it will ruin my career. what a piece of crap
Jun 22 - 10PM (Reply to #34)
Lisa E. Scott
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Broken23

Total piece of crap. Worthless. Hope you're doing ok. Let me know next time you're in chi-town. xoxo
Jun 24 - 7PM (Reply to #35)
betty2020
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coo coo

coo coo

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Jun 22 - 8PM
broken23
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he didnt say mean things,

he didnt say mean things, just a liar, until the d&d occured at the end of each round. then he would find everything wrong with me. - youre selfish - youre uncaring what kind of a woman are you. you let me get wasted. i dont motivate him to be better - your hair is getting thin - most of the time youre too much - i dont care about his family - so what i slept with someone else, i was lonely, and you werent around - at my mom being sick...i cant be there for you, find someone else - at me being pregnant...get rid of it. it will ruin my career. what a piece of crap
Jun 22 - 8PM
enoughalready
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worse things said

You have a *igger nose and ugly toes-but don't take that personal. You are a cheater and whore. You are acting like a psycho-bitch. You are using me like a boy toy. You are a spoiled brat. You are a #igger.(I'm not even close to that ethnic background). I did her in the #ss and she loved it. But got sick of her real fast. Who's your new bf? you can do better than that.( Txts to get a reply). Complimenting other women in front of me! As I write this-it amazes me how much *hit I took from him!
Jun 22 - 7PM
gingercat
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aging without empathy

As the years rolled by the insults and neglect became more 'focused.' I used to hear things like, "Your hair looks like snakes," and endured all the years and years of other typical N gaslighting that would fill a book. Now my experience is actually more disturbing because I realize how seriously alone I am. Facing an overnight in a strange town while preparing for a colonoscopy (he was attending the 'annual' meeting of great importance, for a job he subsequently lost) I was summarily dismissed with the words....."Have a great day!" He then failed to appear to pick me up for hours after the procedure while our young son sat with me. He did make it in plenty of time to chat up the doctor and joke about my condition. Major hysterectomy a year ago and not even a glass of water during initial recovery without my having to ask repeatedly. He wanted to know if I had a 'local' anesthetic and fell asleep in the chair when my daughter in law kindly brought him along to bring me home from the hospital. Most recently a breast biopsy and he signed the release papers which stated the results woulde be given in no more than 2 working days. It was three weeks until he even mentioned it and that was to ask, "How are you feeling?" Honestly, it doesn't get better with age. Just changes to more serious consequences so get out while you are young and hopefully healthy. You see, I think he was always disappointed that I didn't have cancer or die because that would have given him the drama he needed and sympathy to milk from others and ability to justify his empty existence cloaked in fake sorrow. This is really sick stuff.
Jun 22 - 7PM
baddream
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Different Problem

I have been reading this thread and am bewildered because I can not remember N having ever said a bad thing to me.. It was all about what he didn't say. My problem was that N would say one thing, and do something completely different. He would be sweet talking me and telling how much he loved me and a half hour later be in bed with the other girlfriend. I wish he had actually said bad things--- it would have made the NC so much easier. It was all about deception and lies with mine. He was very very careful to wear the mask and not show the evil that was just beneath the surface.
Jun 22 - 7PM (Reply to #29)
hitandrun
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baddream

Mine never said anything bad either. He just lied all the time. All I was was someone to fill a gap until his business got rolling. He was bored and I was his distraction. I probably said meaner stuff to him than he ever said to me.
Jun 22 - 7PM
secondchance
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hmmm...

so many i can't think of them all! let's see... you made me lie i wouldn't do this if you weren't so (fill in the blank) i only react to you..i don't do anything wrong you're a blanking c word (can't even write that let alone say it) i could do better than you i am so nice and everyone likes me and nobody likes you why would i remember anything you talk about? haha.. what idiots!
Jun 22 - 6PM
cynthia (not verified)
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eww brings back bad memories

you can act like a cunt to your husband but not me Gutter slut your nuts you have multiple personalities I am not going down that road, end of discussion why do you like playing the victim I want to watch two men F----k you you belong in a padded room your shallow I bet you would love to be raped everything he said to me HURT, I think the worst was his sexual things he wanted me to do because I knew in my heart this creature did not love me or was capable of loving another human being, all the rest was pure projection. It was like a knife in my heart every time he told me what he wanted me to do sexually, for I knew that is what he was doing in his life before me, during me and will go on doing after me.
Jun 22 - 6PM
Happy1
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mine has said numerous times

mine has said numerous times that he would leave if I gained 5 lbs. He also cheated on me and said he was on dating sites just to talk to the ladies because I treat him like sh*t.