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Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #80)
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Victimnomore

You have got to be kidding me? I really can't believe what I'm reading right now
Feb 14 - 11AM (Reply to #78)
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OMG

I almost choked reading this one. Are you f ing kidding me? Wow, that must have made your head spin. Mine isn't nearly as good as that one, however, he said a similar thing. Yours using indebted kind of reminds me of the worship me comment. This was after I bought a Sony Bravia TV cuz he smashed the other one. "I will always worship you for buying that TV and I promise you I will pay for it." I'm like what? Worship me for buying a TV. You know I never received a dime for the TV. The next time I ever hear a comment like that, I will surely run for the hills. Goldie
Feb 14 - 1PM (Reply to #79)
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Goldie hmmmmmm

hmmmmm my Nh is not able to be indebted to anyone and who would want that? He is truly crazy and tried to manipulate me into giving him what he want! I don't believe this myself and it happened to me!

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Feb 13 - 9PM (Reply to #74)
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The "life of contemplation"

In Leo Tolstoy's "Family Happiness",the husband (who is also old enough to be his wife's father) tells his wife he "put up with her charming nonsense" in order to procreate children. "Charming nonsense" is how Tolstoy refers to female sexuality. The ex-Psych professor would say that if he married me, he'd put up with my "charming nonsense", have 1 or 2 kids, then he'd go off to "live a life of contemplation." The ex-P was into the "we'll have sex in order to replenish the race, then be abstinent for the rest of our lives" routine. He'd say how he'd be going back to God, living a life of contemplation. Well, after he D&D'd me, he had twins with his wife... so much for the "1 or 2 kids" and the joke among my classmates was that his fiancee was actually a lesbian. When I said that sex was sacred, he accused me of being a nun(???) When I said that God created sex as a GOOD thing (but that humans misuse it sometimes), he then called me a pervert. And he never did put to rest all those gay rumors about him, not to mention his gay colleague who warned me that the ex-P was evil personified....
Feb 13 - 10PM (Reply to #75)
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WTF is right!

OMG, victimnomore....He said "Please do this with me so when it's done I will be indebted to you for life and we will get all of this sexual stuff out the way and then we could live a strictly religious life! WTF??? Wow, I'm speechless! This takes the cake. All of these examples take the cake. It's unbelievable what they say to us. Totally inhuman and insane! Susan - love this piece of info: In Leo Tolstoy's "Family Happiness",the husband (who is also old enough to be his wife's father) tells his wife he "put up with her charming nonsense" in order to procreate children. "Charming nonsense" is how Tolstoy refers to female sexuality. WTF again!
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #77)
Susan32
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His heart belongs to Daddy...

I had read Tolstoy's "Family Happiness" before I met the ex-Psych professor, so I knew what he was talking about. Tolstoy describes female sexuality as "frivolity" and "preocuppied with trivialities" in "War and Peace", and of course, "charming nonsense" in "Family Happiness." Ironically, what inspired "Family Happiness" was that Leo's advances were rebuffed by a much younger women because.... *drumroll please* she found him too controlling. The ex-P would spout out Tolstoy endlessly. When he asked me if I had read "Family Happiness",I said yes, I had. In Tolstoy's stories, the Ideal Married Couples don't see each other as sexual beings-yet they manage to procreate. Levin and Kitty in "Anna Karenina" manage to have a son-but it could be a virgin birth. Natasha and Pierre end up with 4 or 5 kids, despite the fact that Leo idealizes the fact that Natasha lets herself go when she has kids. She becomes a fat, rude slob--and Leo shows that she's an Ideal Woman, not an evil, beautiful sexual woman like Helene. The ex-P was a cerebral Narc;he told me he preferred masturbation. He said that I'd have to settle for a sexless marriage after procreating. Cerebral Narcs see sex as low, common, dirty. Somatic Narcs are the "sex all the time" type-they realize they have bodies, and appetites that must be fed. The ex-P struck me as asexual,in some odd ways. He wanted the "strictly religious life",or what he called the "life of contemplation." He'd speak of "getting sex out of the way" as if it were an inconvenience. I think he feared physical affection&sex... well, with the latter, only with himself. For him, safe sex was putting matters into his own hands.
Feb 14 - 11AM (Reply to #76)
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Lisa

Yes this takes the cake. When I tell these stories I really begin to understand how sick he really is and I am so grateful that I this part of my life is over!

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Feb 13 - 3PM (Reply to #69)
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vicitmnomore

Is that EXNarc of yours something from out of Ripleys Believe it or Not, what a NUT case, unreal!!!did his mother screw him up sexually as a kid or what???
Feb 13 - 3PM (Reply to #70)
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onwithmylife

You made me LOL! I know that it is not funny but he actually said this. I told him at the time that he sounded crazy. I can't believe that I did no see that he was sooooo crazy. He once told me that i do not know what it feel like to see you mother in a car sucking some man's d**k. So I assume he saw this and he hates women. All i know is that he is absolutely insane. He said once we have threesomes and I have sex with another woman and we have sex together with the woman he cheated on me with then we will turn strictly to GOD! and live a life devoted to God but we have to get this stuff out of the way first. (yeah right!) Fucking insane!

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Feb 13 - 5PM (Reply to #71)
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vicitmnomore

don't forget in that TORTURED mind and i do mean tortured, we are the crazy ones, the are perfectly sane!! right, my EXN brother told me that his brother thought he was right and the rest of the world was crazy, those are words coming from his own brother, what does that tell you..............
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #72)
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DITTO

My Ex would say that ALL the time. That he was the only person with any common sense. He also claimed to be a martyr. Cuz you know he suffered for others. And would die for someone he felt was being done wrong !! HA I call shenanigans on that one !!
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #73)
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Claimed to be a saint

The ex-Psych professor claimed to be a saint, how much he loved mankind. He thought he was a GENIUS, and FAMOUS PHILOSOPHER (you've never heard of him), and wondered why his dumb students didn't respect him and his colleagues didn't admire him as a genius.
Feb 13 - 11AM
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There's sooo many but the

There's sooo many but the one that sticks out in my head now that I've put a few pounds on...tee hee. If you gain 5lbs I will dump your ass! That's true love right there folks. God I miss that man! He kept my weight off. LOL..
Feb 14 - 3AM (Reply to #62)
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Him "i want to go to france

Him "i want to go to france to see if i have any feelings left for french woman if i dont i will come back and marry you " .. and when i voised an objection he said "you dont want me to be happy "........WTF xx
Feb 14 - 9PM (Reply to #67)
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LMFAO

OMG Scoop, that is just too much. Reading these is unreal. "you don't want me to be happy?" No asshole, I want to be happy and it is not going to be with you. WTF!!! Goldie
Feb 14 - 3AM (Reply to #63)
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After i came home from a

After i came home from a coffee with my gay friend he said "you have a short skirt on , are you trying to get him into bed , if you so much as look at another man i will bend you over and hurt you for punishment (meaning sexualy)" ... but ladies he had terrible ED so i think i was safe lol ... Heres what i was being punished for in that situation and many others , i was being punished for HIS sexual inadequacy .. what a looser .
Feb 14 - 6AM (Reply to #64)
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Scoop

Your comments are so funny, mine started getting ED due to medication and he kept talking about f**King me in the ass, which I do not care for and on and on he expressed his desire, but like yours, since he had ED, would be pretty difficult don't you think, so i escaped that bullet! they all have such weird sex impulses, something had to happen with how they view women early on and i still lay a lot of blame at their mothers.i once wore a cute square dancing skirt to his place and he saw me in it and said I can only wear it for HIm, and not just anywhere, who the F*** is he, my DAD!!!!
Feb 14 - 7AM (Reply to #65)
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Towards the end when he

Towards the end when he would tell me what he wanted to do with me sexualy it just became a real tumble weed moment because i would just stare at him and he knew what i was thinking ie "how are you going to do that if you cant get it up ".. hahahahaha oh and if he mangaged to do anything that resembeled intercourse .. well he would lie there so smugly and say "thats what you get " hahahahahaha like he was the best lover in the world but in truth lasted as long as an ad break inbetween tv programs .. gee thanks darling hahahahaha... his ED was the elephant in the room , we both knew it exsisted but niether of us said anything . i didnt say anything because i was saving it to bring out for a special occasion fight but i went nc before i had time to get it in hehehehe xx
Feb 14 - 7AM (Reply to #66)
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Scoop

you are funny, it was sad with my EXN because before the Ed problem we had the best sex love on earth and for many years, it is not like it wore off and we both discussed the Ed problem and were still able to please each other without actual intercourse . I have to say he never blamed me for anything, sexually actually he appreciated my understanding of him, so in that sense he was decent. That is the main reason I do not want to be a man, the sex department, they have to perform, whereas we do not.I still say it is a mans world in the dating realm.
Feb 12 - 9PM
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if i was an animal....

This really stays in my mind...."if i was an animal i would bite you " "The last time you were here i was thinking about hurting you" Why don"t you jump under a train'....F*****G you is gross...I am thinkig about having sex with men...When his girlfriend kicked him out,i was still in Europe and he in OKlahoma,i foound him an appartment near the University (i did that all on Skype)he told me Hmmm...all those college girls i feel like rubbing myself....When he finally got cable,he told me he was so excited that he wanted to rub himself on the cable guy.....And in order to f***k me he had to think about something else.....And all that shit he told me was 24 hours after i left Europe to be with him,after 2 years on Skype,phone etc.....Please read my story...the D&D has been 2 years ago,but i am stil traumatized......and he told me very bad stuff that i do not dare to write in here....

Aceonelady

Feb 13 - 2AM (Reply to #60)
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Aceonelady...

Hon, I am sooooo very sorry for what he did to you. I bet he is still single and ewwwww what a gigantic CREEP!!!!!
Feb 12 - 8PM
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Mine said..."you wanna die,

Mine said..."you wanna die, bi!$#?" and "you deserve to have the life beat out of you!" Oh yes, this is a great one, "When are you gonna come home and make this fu$#*&' screaming baby shut up?" This is a goody..."your crazy. my mom thinks so and so does my whole family!" I love this one that he said a few months after he left us. He had been calling every day, many times a day, telling me how sorry he was and that he was saving up to come back home to us (was in Hawaii at the time). He had admitted to an affair but was "so sorry" and it was over and he was done with her and only wanted me...he told me he would call me the next morning to make travel arrangements. He didn't call so I called his phone that he had been calling me from. No answer. A few minutes later "she" called back demanding why i was calling her phone. I told her that "Ike" had been calling me from that phone. She just kept repeating herself like a crazy woman. I asked where "ike" was and she said, "right here lying in bed next to me." I said I wanted to talk to him...I could here him say..."I don't want to talk to her, I don't even love her!" WOW! That just about drove me completely crazy. CRAZY MAKING words and behavior of a narc!
Feb 13 - 3AM (Reply to #54)
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oh my word JJ!!!!!

What a freaking disgusting pig!!!!!!! I am so very happy that you are safe and away from him!!!!!!!! Have you been on the other site much?
Feb 14 - 3PM (Reply to #55)
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cherry blossom-

Your thread was a hit, girlfriend! Yes, I have been there, but nobody else has, so I came back over here! How are you?
Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #56)
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JJ!

I miss talking to you. I'm doing SO much better now. Thank goodness and its about time. lol. How are you doing? I hope you have an amazing day =)
Feb 16 - 12AM (Reply to #57)
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cherry blosssom~

I miss talking to you too. I do plan on coming to visit this summer and I am soooooo happy you are doing better! Me too! I am taking the boys to Disneyland in early March...just us three. Yay! A reward to us all for putting HIM behind us.
Feb 17 - 7PM (Reply to #58)
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Yay JJ!!!!

Disneyland!! Wow, you will have so much fun and how exciting for your boys. Have they ever been before? I'm trying to think of other fun things we can do when you come. Downtown is always good for shopping but I doubt they would like it that much except we do have the most amazing candy store in the world. lol. Anyways, so happy for you. Your boys are really lucky to have such an awesome mom!!
Feb 12 - 2PM
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Great Idea!

The worst thing I can remember him saying was after he cheated on me and left me is that he wanted to be a closer friend to me but all my sad emotions were such a drag for him to deal with when he was trying to be in a good mood. Asshole.
Feb 12 - 6AM
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Great thread cherry blossom

mine said the infamous, " I never loved you. I just wanted us to get a house together so I could drive you off the cliff and get the house." than my friends is true love and devotion. He also said while I was visiitng him in the hospital for a major operation, I was helping him take care of his stuff, that he wished i had bigger breasts, but some years later recanted, and said my breasts were fine and he did not want a woman with fake boobs.
Feb 12 - 6AM
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my fav quote

on the fact he doesn't want to see his daughter. I don't have a child. Having children is quite subjective. If I say I don't have a daughter, I just .... don't I'm so horny I could rape you (I have a history of sexual abuse) Stop being hysteric. You cannot be in pain (after I got my eardrums pierced in a diving accident, I was deaf, unable to walk bc of balance problems, and he refused to get me pain killers in a shop 500 m further) You wanting something is another thing than I wanting something (when I asked him kindly to put the volume of his (very loud) CD of bagpipe music down, on a Sunday morning when I made breakfast for him. I was never able to play my music at home)