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My idea for a book...

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#1 Dec 11 - 11PM
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My idea for a book...

Okay, this is meant to be funny. I wish that I could get all of the women of the world to write in one enntry of the one absolute meanest, cruelest thing ever said to them. It has to be the ONE thing that stands out in your mind the most. You know, when your jaw dropped open and you couldn't even respond. This isint meant to trigger bad memories but to purge ourselves of the cruelty and have a good laugh over how ridiculous they are.

This is mine...

Your stomach is bigger than your boobs.

I can laugh about it now but at the time I was horrified and humiliated. I hope this doesn't trigger anyone. What do you think? I def don't want to upset ANYONE on here

Feb 22 - 12PM
hedidntbreakme
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Narc: go kill yourself Me:

Narc: go kill yourself Me: (thinking maybe he is right)
Feb 21 - 10PM
alittledark
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he stuck lol on the end, but that didn't make it any better

I asked him if he thought I was boring and he replied: "Well you know you are if you have to ask, lol." I thought at the time that he was just being a clown, but looking back I'm sure he meant I was boring compared to the OW he has been with.

I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller

Feb 21 - 9PM
ally2375
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For Cherry's book

Narc: (heatedly) I'm RIGHT dammit! Why can't you just agree with me?! Me: Laughs (thinking he's joking) Narc: WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING?! Me: Well, you make such a compelling argument. This was narc two of three. In this case, we were discussing some minor political issue. I've always been the "agree to disagree" type. Guess he wasn't. Geez, between the group of them, I could make quite a list!
Feb 21 - 9PM
hedidntbreakme
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Narc: can you do me a favor?

Narc: can you do me a favor? me: what? Narc: charge me and my brothers vacation on your credit card. me: I can't do it Narc: DAMN U ACT LIKE UR PAYING FOR IT. YOUR USING A CREDIT CARD! ME: well i am still in shock .... sounds of crickets....
Feb 21 - 8PM
hedidntbreakme
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Narc: Babe did u see HIS fat

Narc: Babe did u see HIS fat azz (yummy) Me: mentally thinking "did he really say that?"
Feb 20 - 6PM
CougarBabe7
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Ugly Comments

Here's one: Him: "Your *ss is bigger than I've ever seen it." Me: "Oh yeah? So is your forehead." :)
Feb 21 - 1AM (Reply to #104)
Lisa E. Scott
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Cougarbabe!

LOL, I like your comeback! Nice job! What a loser.
Feb 19 - 8PM
Susan32
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"You don't like my love"

Someone else's N/P said the SAME THING. The ex-Psych professor had reduced me to tears, had something intentionally hurtful, claimed that he was a Quietist who was all about "quieting the mind"--and he'd say "You don't like my love." It was then I told him he wasn't being loving. When you love someone, you don't hurt them intentionally.
Feb 19 - 4PM
sara-smile
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Out with the trash

After my Narc blew up into a rage over something stupid he pushed me and I fell face first on the floor. More bruises! When I got up he took my arm and drug me out of the house and said "You belong outside with the trash" I'm trash? What does that make him? Another good one - If you would just act right I wouldn't have to be so mean! The latest one that really cracks me up. He sent this in a text message - I called you last night and you wouldn't answer the phone so I couldn't sleep! (well bless your freakin heart) Morons......they are all morons!
Feb 19 - 5PM (Reply to #101)
Veronrose
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Sara

Yeah, bless his heart.....IF he had one.
Feb 19 - 4PM
Veronrose
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OMG, reading some of these

OMG, reading some of these posts made me sick to my stomach. Ok, here's mine: After the first and only time we had actual intercourse I wanted to get close to him, but he pushed me away, and said, "You're not gonna get weird on me now are you?" Then he proceeded to tell me he needed a good nights sleep and to get out of his room and to watch tv if I couldn't sleep. (and yes, sex was from behind and it lasted all of about 45.5 seconds - I don't understand it but he preferred phone sex, text sex, and picture swapping - shameful of me to have participated in that). He is such a friggin treasure. Sadly, these men have nothing more to them other than muscles, bones and a pulse in their weenie.
Feb 17 - 9PM
sarah787
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- You are runing my f'ing

- You are runing my f'ing life. - You will never find another boyfriend if you are like this - Take off those glasses - You are ugly
Feb 14 - 12PM
Journey
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He said

"Get your paws off me" - when I reached out with affection "If you really loved me, you should be happy for me if I have found happiness with someone new" - after finding out he had been lying and started dating someone right after (or just before) dumping me "You miss something that doesn't exist" "I feel I will die if I stay here with you" "You're so negative all the time, it's hard to talk to you" "Nothing I could say will ever be enough to reassure you and I don't want to enable your insecurities by trying" "You're so weak" Journey on...

Journey on...

Feb 14 - 1PM
happydaysahead
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WARNING--first one is BRUTAL

First part is what he said and the parts after are my own personal thoughts !! 1) you are nothing but a f*cking a**hole c*nt--this is after I asked him if he had the money to pay back my parents (he asked me to ask them if he could borrow $350 to get caught up on his child support and promised to pay it back in a month--guess what ?? I ended up paying them back cuz he never gave me the $$) I have NEVER, EVER been called THAT word before !! Ugghhh !! 2) You are THE most selfish person I have ever met--uh yeah, ok, whateva !! Everyone I know tells me that I do too much for others and not enough for myself, but ok, I'm selfish. 3) I have lost all respect for you--ok, why is that ?? because I was stupid enough to keep taking you back after you continuously cheated on me ?? 4) I keep having these dreams about you having sex with a German Shepherd--WTF ?!?!?!?!?!?!!? Still can't believe that one. 5)We need to have a threesome so you can feel better about yourself--uhmmmm, no asshole, I just need to have a boyfriend that treats me like a real person OMG, there are just so many and at the time, he truly had me thinking I was losing my mind. But now that I look back, I can see it was all part of his scheme, his plan to mess with my head !! I am SO much happier now !! :)
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #96)
happydaysahead
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Thought of another....

When mine was cheating (of course, I did not know this at the time) he would be very distant. I would ask him what was wrong and he would tell me that he was punishing me for being so mean to him and hurting his feelings. And that he would tell me when he felt I had been punished enough. Yeah, thanks there buddy !!!! Cuz I needed to be punished for caring too much about you and doing everything and anything I could to keep you happy. WOW, it is SO therapeutic to type all of this. When I go back and reread I can see even more what a big ASS he was and will ALWAYS be !! Thanks for letting me vent !! :)
Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #94)
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UMMM #4??????????

That is the absolute craziest thing I have ever heard. This guy makes mine look like a freaking saint!!!! I'm so sorry and hope you are away from him now.
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #95)
happydaysahead
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Yeah #4

I could not believe when he said that. Crazy is an understatement. I mean, did he think THAT would turn me on ??!?!?! I have been away from him for as long as I have been on this site. I think about 42 weeks--have not seen or heard from him. So all good at my end !!
Feb 14 - 3PM (Reply to #92)
Goldie
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Interesting take they have

How does having a threesome make a woman feel better about herself? I have NEVER EVER EVER heard that one before. They are full of themselves and will use ANY comment necessary to get what they want. Creepy!!! Goldie
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #93)
happydaysahead
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?????

I guess in his twisted mind he thought he was doing me some big favor. Yeah, I have low self esteem (because of HIM) but seriously, yep a threesome would have helped me feel SO much better. And then I find out that the OTHER THING (cuz she in not a person and I am not just being bitter, but IT is not) he wanted to join us was the OW. Of course, at the time, I had no clue he was cheating on me !! He's such a dumbass !!
Feb 14 - 3PM (Reply to #89)
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A german shephard ??? lol .

A german shephard ??? . Just when i think theses guys cant get any crazyer ..lo and behold they do lol xx
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #91)
happydaysahead
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Hmmmm

I am just thinking..........don't they project things onto us ?? Maybe HE wanted to be with a German Shepherd but made me think it would be hot if I was. Hmmmmmmmmm........ he is just a sick mother f*cker !! But, now that I see WHAT he is with, maybe the German Shepherd would have been his best option !! LOL
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #90)
happydaysahead
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DOUBLE POST

DOUBLE POST
Feb 14 - 1AM
ACgirl
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Bizarre and actually FUNNY Comments my Narc made

There are so many. Here are a few.... "Well, I was 95% faithful most of the time, then sometimes it was 50%" Gee, he speaks about being faithful like a butcher measures how much fat there is in chopped meat. "I have no time to talk to you, my boat has priority". Okay Mr. Narc, as long as boats are referred to as "she" go f*%K your boat. "Since I don't know how I feel, I guess I will let you see other people". Oh thanks mommie for letting me go out and play today.
Feb 14 - 12AM
narcissizednomore
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nasty and bizarre comments

-I could have made you fall in love with me (thank goodness the mask came off before that happened) -I don't want to know anything about your life, I just want to have sex with you. See, how much I've grown? (This was after a 2 month break from each other, perhaps in hindsight a D&D period) His later explanation for saying something so horrible was complete word salad. For the first few minutes, I couldn't make any sense of what he was trying to say. Every sentence was a fragment and he switched thoughts mid sentence. He was falling over himself trying to make sense of it himself and it was absolutely hopeless and he knew it. Oh how I wish I knew more about this disorder back then!

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Feb 14 - 12AM
narcissizednomore
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nasty and bizarre comments

-I could have made you fall in love with me (thank goodness the mask came off before that happened) -I don't want to know anything about your life, I just want to have sex with you. See, how much I've grown? (This was after a 2 month break from each other, perhaps in hindsight a D&D period) His later explanation for saying something so horrible was complete word salad. For the first few minutes, I couldn't make any sense of what he was trying to say. Every sentence was a fragment and he switched thoughts mid sentence. He was falling over himself trying to make sense of it himself and it was absolutely hopeless and he knew it. Oh how I wish I knew more about this disorder back then!

narcissizednomore

Feb 14 - 7PM (Reply to #85)
kla2000
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WOW

Mine said the EXACT same things! Ugh!
Feb 13 - 7PM
onwithmylife
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All I can

SAY after reading all these comments is what planet does these creeps come from????????????????
Feb 14 - 4PM (Reply to #83)
Lisa E. Scott
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Exactly

Wow, I couldn't agree with you more onwithmylife - What planet do they come from!!!!!
Feb 13 - 7PM
fooled no longer
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1.People like you commit

1.People like you commit suicide all the time. 2. If I loose my job I'll get another one, but you will never get a job.
Feb 13 - 2PM
victimnomore
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Cherryblossom

This was said after he begged me for days to have a threesome and do some other off the wall sexual things with him. He said "Please do this with me so when it's done I will be indebted to you for life and we will get all of this sexual stuff out the way and then we could live a strictly religious life! WTF???

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