red flags you chose to ignore
red flags you chose to ignore
I know I saw something like this before but I cant find the thread. Please feel free to bump this if it needs to be.
Now that I am free of the situation I can look back at the red flags I chose to dismiss. These are just some of them. WOW, do I feel stupid reading them now. My 13 year old even asked me what were you thinking? Just shows how incredibly blind you are when your in the whole situation.
My red flags:
What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her (talking about his fiancé that he didn’t want to marry) when flirting and making suggestions to get together.
he had 1 marriage and 2 broken engagements...that I knew of.
Mother who called him every day after she got home from work.
Referred to her as whore when he saw it was her calling, but seemed to really love her and be nice when she was talking to him.
Felt like I was going over to a serial killers house the first time I went to his place, just that weird uneasy gut feeling.
Seemed to spend all his off time alone at home watching TV.
He had no close friends that I knew about that he had made in the area, but all his acquaintance friends seemed to be women.
Women always seemed to doing him favors.
Unbelievably flirty with every female he runs into. Says he just likes to make people smile and make their day nicer.
Would never admit to it but was racist and homophobic.
Totally didn’t understand some things he said being very inappropriate. Like talking about how cool it is to drink with my teenage daughters.
Openly flirty with my older daughter.
Almost everyone couldn’t stand him at work. I found myself embarrassingly always trying to defend his behavior and make reasons to justify why he acted like he did.
Enjoyed firing people, making them cry and belittling them.
Always talked about the latest woman who flirted with him, gave him her number, asked him out, told him he was cute etc… loved to be acknowledged as desirable by any woman.
Lies, OMG, the lies. The one that makes me laugh is the one in the beginning that he’s a terrible liar because “I’m so bad at it you can tell I’m doing it and I could never get away with it”. Lied about his work past, how he met his fiancé, details about his past that wouldn’t matter at all anyway. Some of it made no sense why he would bother lying when it wouldn’t make any difference what so ever. They started to pile up so much I couldn’t understand it. I’d never encountered a compulsive liar and it threw wrenches into my gears of reasoning.
He was a gossip junkie. Loved to have the latest dirt on everything. When things were boring he made up things to cause trouble.
red flag
names
More as I think of them
cargogoods
Humorless
Tantrum throwing
BIG Red Flags
Just wondering for those who
Wow, the lies! So many!
discovering lies
M and lies
blaming ex wife for marriage
The lies were the worst of it for me
Like the truth
yes, the lies
more red flags
M
red flags
Top red flag I missed!!!
Probably not joking
For Cherry blossom
Wow!!!
I was scared in the end
OMG
Oh Goldie
Oh dear god :(
I'm glad Allthatglitters
Cargogods
Red Flags
This is a great thread,