Narcissists Are NOT Normal People
Narcissists Are NOT Normal People
by Kathy Krajco
Here is an example of what I mean when I warn against 'assuming that narcissists act on normal human premises.'
The victim thinks she can get through to him, because, "After all, why would he want to hurt me?"
Stop. She has made a wrong assumption. She is assuming that it's about her. Wrong. She is assuming that her welfare matters. Wrong.
It's ALL, ALL, ALL about him, the narcissist. Abusing her to treat her like dirt makes him feel grand. It has the same effect on him that a hit of heroin has on a drug addict. The pain in her eyes at being shamefully treated makes him feel powerful and grand to dominate and kick her around so. (Insert his inner Tarzan yell here.) Her pain has a pain-killing effect on him. It makes him feel good, because this delusion seals over his deep-seated knowledge that he is scum.
So, since this balm of treating another like dirt feels good, she does it. Period.
That's all there is to a narcissist.
Nothing else matters. It's ALL, ALL, ALL about getting the next hit of his drug. Nothing else even gets considered. Which is why narcissists even damage their own children and their own business just to get a hit of their glorious drug.
Oh, and by the way, it hurts her? So what? What's that to him, the Center of the Universe? You might as well expect him to consider the consequences to some bug of not making sure he doesn't step on it.
Ask a three-year-old to consider the consequences of her actions on others. She won't, will she? She'll just refuse to. You will get just as far (= nowhere) with a 50-year-old narcissist.
He thinks you're a sap. It ain't wrong unless you get caught, and he knows how to NOT get caught. And he thinks that if you're too stupid to figure that out, you deserve whatever he does to you.
In a way, it's the victim's own ego that does her in. She won't admit that, in his esteem, she is nothing, zip, nada, zilch. That's degrading, humiliating. But it's the truth. And until she faces that fact, she is dead meat.
http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/07/malignant-narcissists-are-not-no...
Scary true
So true!
not human
Narcissists Are NOT Normal
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This is so important to remember
not normal people
could it be
narcissists - not normal people
NOT NORMAL PEOPLE
I have Always wondered
cynthia
cynthia
true
cynthia
good for deprogramming
vengeful and venting
i hear ya
This is all true-April.
The deep implant thing
Oh Wow
Happy Birthday finallydone
Twilight Zone
i have a great counselor
never assume with a narcissist
narcs are NOT NORMAL PEOPLE
this is important to remember
does it matter the reasons why we were used
cynthia
Victim's ego