Is it possible to stay in a relationship with a Narc?
Is it possible to stay in a relationship with a Narc?
If you know he's a narc and have informed yourself of his disorder, is it possible to use them for the goodness they provided but not get emotionally involved because you know he is scrambled eggs? God, what is wrong with me for even thinking this? Mine had so much good and generosity but became weird when he drank too much (which was often because he has a drinking problem too). Is it possible to put up with the lies and second life if you know that's what he's about? Women stay with men or marry men for money, etc. Mine has lots of money and always said he would take care of me and my children. I don't make good money but we lived a fun life and money was never an issue. I can barely pay my bills. I always said I could never sell my soul for money but now thinking of using him again for what he can do for me but then it puts me at the same level as him?? Ugh, i need a slap, he's a liar, cheater, manipulator (oh and sex addict and alcoholic) but now I'm thinking of playing his game and giving it back to him. He will not go away even after months of NC and telling his friend he is psychopath and a very sick man. He knows he is N and admitted it to me. He is so very calm, cool, smart, generous, fun, and loves to spend $$$ and travel to amazing places....what's a girl to do...I'm lonely and broke and like to escape my life once in a while and that part I miss so much. Please shake me and make me come to my senses!!!!! Have any of you had one that had so many great traits and treated you like a queen more often than the scrambled eggs part? (Yes I had to endure a few comments here and there when he was drunk but he did not yell or raise his voice ever). I cannot get rid of him and am trying to figure out a way to keep him around for my benefit only. He lives 1 mile away and works at same company. I don't put up with his shit at all and give it right back to him. I've learned that I cannot and will not ever get emotionally attached to him again. HELP???
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Lisa- I can relate to
There's no good that can come
Yeah, sure, of course you can
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Susan32
How does she put up with it?
Lisa
I have thought about putting up with Narc's crap too
I think you are lying to
Journey on...
Sure you can! If you dont
so true
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Lisa
This crossed my mind too, for
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