The Path Forward Forum

I am 2 years out from discard, and progressing on my path forward. I was one of those on this forum who said..."I will never get hoovered"....but lo and behold 2 years of no contact, I got an email last night from the narc - 9:30pm on a Friday night. I could see the first line of the email "Hi I wanted to write and see how your parents are doing, p". I saw it last night and did not open it to see the whole message and attachment (no doubt a picture of his boat). I re-read "The Path Forward" book section on No Contact and read...."delete email without reading".

It`s been about 2.5 years since I found the forum and although it took me a while to go NC and then weekly therapy for a further 1 year after that it was very worth it :) keep going!!!

2.5 years out and got together with a friend (after avoiding men like the plague) wondering if he too is an N :(

Hi all, this is my first post, I have not shared my story yet but will when I have more time. After 6 long years and so many messed up things that happened, it's going to be quite long. For now I will keep it short because I am feeling a great need to tell the other woman what I have learned in the last few months. She and I know each other well, she has an 8 year old son with our narc and I have a 2 year old. We even considered ourselves friends for a while. Long story short, he played us against each other and we became very jealous, bitter and hateful.

Hey. It's me again. I posted two weeks ago about how I had a dream about my ex narcissist with his two kids and his new supply and her kid.
I received such wonderful advise. However the dream was made a reality when a delightful picture was on my Facebook of them playing happy families at a family meal. I thought I had deleted all possible sources.

I'm coming up on my third anniversary of dumping his ass cold. Its been really rough and while I broke no-contact a number of times by peeping online, I've never actually made contact. I still struggle and last night I had a nightmare out of the blue. But I am an amazing woman for whom most people would never guess in a million years that I was once raped, degraded, and dragged through the gutter by a psychopath. And I no longer keep his secrets, I am completely open about my experience and strong about it.

Whenever he cocks his head to one side, objectively appraising me - and quizzily says: "You look good." I know that it's all about to get crazy. What he means by that gesture is that I'm getting too happy - looking too WELL - and perhaps reaching too far away from his controlling clutches.

SO...How am I to get out of the prison if the gatekeeper watches my every move, every mood? How am I to get my business going? How will I become financially successful if he knocks me down as soon as I muster myself upward?

I was a fairly active member several years ago, who just had to go back in for another draining round. Junkie that I am.

It's not even worth recounting what the drama was this time, but suffice it to say.....I am too old for nonsense from someone who has no sense. The term "scrambled eggs" just popped back into my brain from this forum.

So I'm done and I just wanted to say hello before I start taking in all of the info I can find in The Path Forward.

Just wanted to stop in to say hello to everyone , I have been a member here for a while and I think of this forum often , it saved me from a life of hell! I hope you all are doing the work that is asked of you because trust me it really works !

Hey everyone. I'm not having such a good day today. I've been doing so well. Then last night I had a vivid dream that I was back to the illusion phase with my narcissist.
He's got two daughters with a previous partner and I really cared for them during our 3 years together. I miss their presence.

I dreamt we were a family again. Then I woke up and felt such loss. That these little darlings have forgotten me. What hurts as well is his new supply, has a little girl and all I can picture is the 5 of them playing happy families.

I cannot believe how far I've come in a year... February 1st marks the last day that I had any contact with my narcissist. That day I had made up my mind that I was done this time for real... but I needed help. So I bought the book the Path Forward, and joined the forum, and joined Goldie's group, and went to a local therapist as well.
No Contact - so important, but so hard at first
It gets better... I remember counting the days, 2 whole weeks without contact, then one month, then 2 months... Then after a while I realized I wasn't counting anymore.