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I'm taking a Coastal Navigation course at a school that is serious re sailing. The homework this week, after class 1 with a study map, was in part to: determine the variation of the True and Magnetic bearings and deviation between compass reads and what compass should read. We were told to create a course from x to Y and give the Latitude and Longitude of the trip, to figure of where we would be by Y O'clock of we left by X O'clock.among other questions.

The self is a calm stable center surrounded by a continuous changing sea. Merge with yourself and be ready for any emergent sea.
--Coretta Scott King

Wise ones tell us to be true to ourselves. Being true to ourselves means daring to disagree with a loved one, even when we know it might cause painful tension. It means refusing to go along with the group's plans if our values are being ignored. It means standing alone, if necessary, in our family of origin if their expectations of us no longer nurture our growth.

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I have been involved with a Narc for 9 years. On Sunday was the discard. Things have been getting progressively worse as time as gone on. The last few months when I would try and call him I would get "Narc is on the phone". It didn't matter if it was 6 a.m. or 10 p.m. When I asked who he was talking to he would get angry and say "I told you! I'm NOT on the phone. When there is no cell phone reception you are going to get that message". Ummm, I don't think so.

Ok. I admit it. I spied on the N who threw me out like garbage. I saw that he just took the new one to the same vacation spot at the same exact dates that we used to go! Both are beaming and she looks like she thinks she won a prize. Why can't I move on? Why do I torture myself? Why do the mutual friends that I thought we have now support her?

Hi there

I've been here before, couple of times actually, found much support and love which helped me get over two disasterous narc relationships. I did the work and moved on.

In May last year, a chap I had known for a couple of years asked me out on a date... wow... hadn't had an offer like that in a while so off I went.

In previous posts I have said that I miss my Narc and traditions etc. I think about him frequently in a longing sort of way at times during the day. Today, however, I had to run errands in his town eg dentist, bank, auto shop. I've had these people in place long before I met the Narc and refuse to give them up because of that jerk. Today I also had to go to the grocery store which is kitty-corner to his house. I could have called and stopped by, I could have stared at his place, I could have gone to the store and maybe run into him. I avoided the place.

Holiday season is making me more crazy I'm weak and pathetic yes I looked looked at bloody Facebook and there's his new woman wishing all their family and friends merry Xmas what the fuck she doesn't know half his friends or family !! If I'd have done that he would have went mad but there he is on liking it and commenting and referring to them both !! He's spent last night and today with her all I got was Xmas day night I know all I've read says they can't change but from what I've seen he has changed and my heart is even more broken !! Why her !!!

First of all wanted to say to you thanks for everyone's comments and posts for my original posting !
But I have a confession to make and I'm not proud but I wanted to share with you what I've done but also wanted to promise to you all and put in writing my commitment to succeed and move forward !

Hi...Ex N is 50 years old and married a 30 year old mother of 3 and just became a father of a new baby(his).He has 3 grown children with his common law wife that he stop seeing for 3 years..he has one grandchild that he mever visits...Why on Eartj would he marry a woman with three kids amd also make a baby if he could not care for his 3 own children?He is on minimun wage And the new woman has mo job or money whatsoever