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The Sex Addicted Narcissist

Sometimes YOU are the last to know. Or you sense it, yet have no proof. Or you know it, yet choose to stay in denial. Or you find out and he promises to stop or change. Not likely in this life time.

Is your narcissist a sex addict and you don't know it or are in denial?

My narcissist never cheated on me is a common war cry on here.

Are you sure about this?

You don't need to SEE it happening to make it true.

Many narcissists are clever with keeping their sex addiction from you.

Often, you are the last to know.

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So she thought she was special..

So she thought she was special. Joyce Mitchell, was apparently made to feel special by convicted violent murderer and reported Psychopath , Richard Matt. So special that she considered assisting him, and may have, in his prison break with convicted law enforcement killer, David Sweat. The extent of her involvement is unknown at this time. See details below. These allegations are reported by CNN and the Daily Mail, UK.

The Text Message. A Brilliant Invention for the Narcissist.....

"A brilliant invention for the busy Narcissist on the run." Now we have the text which disappears after reading. The narcissist was jumping for joy the day that app was launched. The players paradise, no longer will there be any evidence in print.

Text Messages, Romantic gestures? Lazy? Or MAJOR Red Flags. TEXTS do not = Love.

A TEXT Message is not a contract, commitment, date, gift, or proof of ones love and devotion.

It is a text. A few seconds out of someone's day.

Most likely they are avoiding OW (which is also you at times) while texting you. Or some other unsavory behavior.

Texting is one of a cheaters/players/Narcissists favorite tools.

Keeps YOU thinking he is connected to you, regardless to what he is actually doing.

So you think the sex was intense with the Narcissist? What is great sex anyway?

Great sex does not necessarily always translate into two people in a deeply loving connection. This is clearly illustrated in the mixed messages, words not matching the actions, type of a relationship with a narcissist.

INTENSITY is often misinterpreted for many of us and perceived as a substitute for INTIMACY (love).

This intensity stems from the tension created in us by the narcissist. This tension is received in our bodies, minds, and hearts, as anxiety, emptiness, and pain triggered by the mind games (push/pull).

"Friends With Benefits" crumbs from a Narcissist

The Narcissist's theme song and the Empath's Love Story of HOPE.....
Also a GREAT SONG/theme for the Narcissist's HOOVER, I LOVE you NOW BABY!!!!
Does he? Do Narcissist's love just ONE GIRL? Can a leopard change his spots? Are YOU holding out for this one in a million?

Fooled Around and Fell in Love
Elvin Bishop
Jeffrey Bailey edited the lyrics

I must have been through about a million girls

I love 'em and I leave 'em alone

I didn't care how much they cried, no sir

Their tears left me cold as a stone

But then I fooled around and fell in love

It used to be when I'd see a girl that I like

I'd get out my book and write down her name

But when the grass got a little greener on the other side

I'd just tear out that page

Trust your instincts about the Narcissist in your life. Our instincts are our inner shield for protection and safety from harm's way in our live's

Trust your instincts

Your instincts are your truth.

No, I did not say to trust your addiction.

We cannot trust our addictions, they are not our instincts.

Addictions take us to places of avoidance.

Instincts take us to a place of truth.

Generally when we find ourselves in an addictive state of any nature, food, people, shopping, alcohol, gambling, sex, toxic relationships, and so on, we are in avoidance mode.

Addiction = avoidance of generally pain and truth. Our honest true feelings and what we see.

The truth is too painful so we become addicted to avoid the truth.

Often it is said of addiction, is that the person has on their running shoe's.

And what are they running from?