Where are the Six Steps?

I continue to get e-mails asking me where The Six Steps went and what happened to the website I built for my 6 Step Recovery Program at www.allaboutrecoverynetwork.com.

Betty and I went our separate ways. She stole the recovery site by having her cousin (the webmaster behind it all) move it to a domain name that she owns once it was completely built and I paid for it in full.

I posted the "Explanation" below a few days ago because I felt everyone deserved to know what happened. There should be no mystery here. In response to my post, Betty and her crew began slandering me on their site (you know, the one I paid to build). I sent a formal letter asking them to stop and removed my post below in good faith that they would remove their slanderous post.

They have not removed their post so I am reposting mine to ensure everyone knows exactly what happened. They will not comment on what happened because they have absolutely no defense. They are simply calling me a pathological liar. It is obvious to anyone who chooses to look that they stole my site. The proof is out there on the Internet for everyone to see. They cannot hide what they did to me.

The details of what happened are below and will remain here on my board forever until they remove the slander against me on the website I paid to build, which was stolen from me the moment it was paid-in-full.

Explanation

I am only answering this because it is being directly asked. I would rather spare everyone the details of what happened, but believe those of you asking deserve an explanation.

As you know, I made Betty the main moderator here back in August 2010. It was her idea to build a second recovery site and she brought her cousin, Chad, a webdesigner into my home to convince me to do this at a discounted price.

She and I were going to partner together on a life coaching business called "All About Recovery." I bought the domain name www.allaboutrecoverynetwork.com and spent $3,000 building the new site. I wrote all the content for the coaching program - i.e. The Six Steps.

I had a moderator meeting last weekend and the weekend before where I offered to fly any of the moderators into my home who chose to come. Ms. Vulcan and Brisies chose not to come and participated in the meetings via Skype.

Instead of asking me in a professional manner if we could go our separate ways, Betty created conflict between us after we had been drinking for several hours. It was extremely painful the drama she put us all through as she told me everyone hates me and she was taking all the moderators with her to the new site.

I learned she had been undermining me for months telling all the moderators lies about me....saying I'm "naive and easy to manipulate" as well. She took everyone, but Goldie (a true angel) with her and caused a scene in my condo building that people are still talking about a week later. I almost called the police.

I agreed we could go our separate ways, meaning she could take the purple site and I would keep the pink site if that's what she wanted. She wanted to be in charge and we ultimately had different ideas about what a recovery site should be. I told her we could part ways and that I wish she would have asked me in a professional, non-dramatic manner.

Instead of parting ways amicably and fairly, she stole the recovery coaching website from me. She had her cousin copy the entire site, move it to a domain name she owns and blocked me from having any access.

When I started working with Betty back in August, she convinced me to transfer this site (www.allabouthim.com) to her cousin Chad's server. For some reason I did and last Saturday I quickly realized what a mistake this was and how easily I was played.

She basically held this site hostage, threatening that she would "not jeopardize this site or the launch of my second book IF I transferred the domain name www.allaboutrecoverynetwork.com into her name." I have this in writing, which is why I'm not concerned about being sued for defamation here.

I told her I would give her the domain name if she made me whole and bought it from me for the $3k that I invested. She ignored my request and simply stole the site by having her cousin copy it and move it to a new domain name.

Not only did she steal the site from me by having her cousin move it to a domain name I don't own, but she managed to convince him to point the domain name that I do own (www.allaboutrecoverynetwork.com) to the new domain name she owns now. This is completely illegal and I did get an attorney involved so as of yesterday, I see they finally stopped forwarding my domain name to her new one. This is why none of you can find it. She bought a new domain name for $11.99 so she didn't have to buy me out for the domain name it was previously under.

As I mentioned, Briseis and Ms. Vulcan chose not to come stay with me so fortunately, were not here for the shake-down. After Betty stole everything from me, I sent e-mails to both Briseis and Ms. Vulcan saying they were free to moderate on both sites, but I never heard back from them. I understand Betty has been sabotaging me for months, telling the moderators lies about me so I'm not surprised they are not responding to me.

It's another lesson for me not to be so trusting. I met Betty for the first time this August. I took her to a Melissa Etheridge concert and let her stay at my home numerous times (even when I was not home). She lives in Rockford, Illinois so she is not close to Chicago at all.

She can have the recovery coaching site. I'm just glad I saw her true colors before I invested any more in a partnership with her. I am simply walking away in disbelief and sadness that some people can be so manipulative, exploitave and cruel.

Thanks to everyone for your support. I am not trying to create more drama, but I feel those of you who want to know what happened deserve an explanation. I am just so glad to have this site back under my control. I don't know what I was thinking when I transferred it to her cousin. Last week was absolute hell as they held my site hostage, threatened me and slandered me to moderators that I welcomed into my home and my heart. Never again.

The Six Steps are not gone. They will be published with the release of my second book "Surviving a Toxic Relationship" due out this Spring 2011.