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wanting to support xOW. why?

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#1 Dec 18 - 9PM
violetfawn
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wanting to support xOW. why?

So N eloped and I know 2 of his xOW's and really want to reach out to them and remind them NC... I was OW last Christmas when they broke NC and know the thrill it gave him.

New victim is young, naive, compliant, contraversial, flighty, and a totally smug bitch from what I hear (hmmm maybe borderline?).... perfect supply for now & I never have had a moments thought to contacting/warn her - I know better than that, so I've definitely made progress.

Dilemna is that I personally know xW (& mother of his children), & remotely know xOW (xfiance, bless her heart) who was right before me. I know that needing to reach out is co-dependent, but I also know they are hurting. What are your thoughts? How do you all deal with this temptation, especially during the holidays. Is this considered breaking NC?

Dec 19 - 4AM
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Yogakitteh

Dec 19 - 6AM (Reply to #2)
violetfawn
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not my gain

Dec 19 - 7AM (Reply to #3)
talktothehand
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Kitteh