A small bump in the road...

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#1 Sep 6 - 7AM
Unfreakinreal
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A small bump in the road...

But because of all of you, I really don't feel too bad about it.

I got the text on day 5, right after he came back into town and I am sure after he walked into his empty house.

It was full of concern about how I was doing... He likes to pride himself on remembering specifics of my life and acting like he cares. Ended with the you don't need to respond, just know I was thinking of you bullshit.

I did respond.

Yes, I shouldn't have but I did wait 9 hours to do so - an accomplishment - albeit small. Here is my response...

Everything is fine. Thx. I want a monogamous and reciprocal relationship. I want to be made love to, not fucked. I don't want my head screwed with. This is why I have remained silent and I would like it to continue. You have plenty of others to choose from, please find what you need somewhere else. I would really appreciate it. Thx.

So, yes, by responding I gave him some supply, he of course didn't respond back, I am kind of happy about that, I am not going to beat myself up over it and I feel pretty good actually.

Back to day one I guess.... :)

That should get me the ST for another few days which is great, I can work on separating myself some more.

Sep 6 - 10AM
FarmGirl
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Sometimes you need to speak

Sometimes you need to speak your piece & I bet it felt GOOD!! Note to self - get new phone # before I split w N!! I am a sucker.
Sep 6 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
Unfreakinreal
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Farmgirl it felt great

Even felt better when he didn't respond, I am certain he was expecting much different response. It was short and simple, unlike anything else I have texted or written. Probably knocked him on his ass for a couple minutes. Hey, a win is a win :) The best part was that I didn't want him to respond or show up feigning concern. He got a glimpse of me before I met him, the me he can never have.
Sep 6 - 9AM
Kiwi2005
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Day 1 it is...

But soo proud of you for doing what you felt would & did make you feel better! And very happy to hear you're not beating yourself up! You shouldn't- you got something off your chest & he didn't reply... what do you say to being called out? Hence, his no response. Stay Strong! Day 1---!
Sep 6 - 9AM (Reply to #8)
Unfreakinreal
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Kiwi, you are so right...

Day one it is. This isn't my first day one, I survived all the other ones without too much damage, right? Day one I can do standing on my head, it's day 6 that always trips me up :) And I do feel good about my decision to respond so I am going to call it a win. I don't hurt today so I will take it and run with it.
Sep 6 - 8AM
Sparrow
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It is very tempting,

It is very tempting, responding. We have all done it. Regroup as you said you will. Day 1 isn't such a bad place to be.........better then day 0, and still speaking with him, supplying him. I love how he was concerned for you. NOT! :) Stay strong!
Sep 6 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
Unfreakinreal
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Thank you Sparrow.

You are absolutely right, day one isn't so bad. I didn't sleep with the phone next to me, waiting for a response. Xoxo
Sep 6 - 8AM (Reply to #4)
Hunter
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You won't get a response! The

You won't get a response! The Devil has been discovered! Now you'll get the abusive silent treatment! Hunter
Sep 6 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
Anabelle
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I couldn't agree more on

I couldn't agree more on this. When I wrote a similar text saying he was a liar and the deceiver from day one, and I want NC for good. He went ST and badmouthing... You did well :)
Sep 6 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
Unfreakinreal
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It was actually a relief to

It was actually a relief to not get a response. My response pretty much said it all. Let him think he is punishing me, the fact that I didn't ask him anything about his trip probably sent him running to his dating site for some validation. I just really don't have the time or energy for bullshit. Maybe he will be silent a little longer this time. Good news is I don't even have that nagging feeling to send one more text this time. I just sent that one, shut off the phone and went to bed. Woo hoo for the little steps!!! I will say it again - if it wasn't for this site... You all know what I mean... Xoxo
Sep 6 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Sparrow
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So glad to hear it! Be

So glad to hear it! Be prepared however, don't let your guard down........you will hear from him again. Continue moving forward and when you do hear from him, you will be strong enough to delete the message and will feel great about it!