on this post, as I was just thinking about the same thing.
Narc is coming back into the States next week (he works overseas) and is sure to contact me--mainly because I took our pickup from outside his girlfriend's house about five weeks ago, where he left it before he flew out.
He can have it when the judge says so; til then, it's mine.
And I moved, and he doesn't know where, but I'm sure he will find me (actually having alot of fear about this today; need to go get pepper spray).
So. We have lawyers who are communicating with each other about the legal matters and divorce, so other than threats and intimidation, Narc has no reason to contact me.
I am having a hard time deciding what to do if he does contact me, because this stupid part of me wants to poke at him and taunt him a little bit about where I am, the truck, etc., and the other part of me is thinking about the one firearm I have and wondering where the best pepper spray can be obtained.
I HOPE to just let him know, in one sentence, that the truck is mine and will remain so until a judge says I must give it over to him (and this is one thing I am fighting like hell to get in the divorce).
BTW, Narc is making the payments on the truck, and if he stops and gets bad credit, he is going to lose his six-figure job, so he is stuck between a rock and a hard place--he can't have the truck but can't stop paying for it right now either.
There is NO chance that I will get sucked back in, though--I believe firmly that he is Evil, and after trying to take my own life this year, and considering it several times after that, I simply won't allow reconciliation to even be a consideration.
And another thing that helps this mind-set--and may help others who are tempted to go back--is that I have nearly worn out my support circle, who love me dearly, and are worried about my safety, much less mental health, etc.--it would be such an insult, and a let-down to them, to go back to him after all the support and love that they have given.
As a parent, I know my own parents have about worried themselves sick over this, and are in fear about Narc coming back to the country as well, and if I can't stay out of Hell for myself, I WILL do it for my parents, and my own grown kids.
*I also want to add that Narc and I were together a total of 17 years, and so I HAVE gone back numerous times, etc. And would probably still be thinking about reconciliation if he hadn't started the affair with Skankygirl.
Is there GPS in the truck? If not, tell him that there is so you'd be able to find it if he took it.
I'll keep my fingers crossed that he doesn't find you but if he comes to get the truck, remember he has NO empathy like a normal person. He wouldn't hesitate to hurt you to get what he wants. I hope he isn't that stupid.
But please be safe. A truck isn't worth your life! He can have the stupid thing if he's going to act all crazy.
but I have both original keys (chips in them) and both original key fobs (remotes), so he can't take the truck, unless he physically takes the keys from me. Hence pepper spray.
And I hear what you are saying about the truck not being worth it, and to an extent I will agree--but the sheer audacity of him to take it and put it outside HER house, after telling me all summer "there is no one else", and then I see his phone records....nah. It's mine.
I won't put my life in danger for it--think I was over-reacting earlier about the fear--but he's shown me enough disrespect, and that move just topped it.
There was something about the last cry I had, with him on the phone. It wasn't hysterical,it wasn't angry, it was like an annimal hit by a car and lying near dead on the side of the road wimpering and gasping for life. He didnt pick it up, he just kept driving. I actually don't want him anymore, that last second of creulty will last a lifetime.
Teehee!!! Hunter
Hunter but that would feed
If they day comes you will be
Perfect timing
Wilted,
No GPS
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