Responding to Contact
Responding to Contact
It seems many of us (me included for sure) get too much confidence as a result of going No Contact. Story after story we tell how well we are doing, or how shitty we are doing, but we always say "I am staying strong and maintaining No Contact".
Then they contact us. And we fold, and give in, and let them back in for yet another cycle of pain and abuse, lies and manipulation.
And then at some point, usually after the next d and d, we report back here that one more time it didn't work out so well. And we tell ourselves we learned more through this current devastation, and now we know so much more, and are really ready to go No Contact for real.
But we don't talk nearly enough about NO RESPONSE when the narc calls. And they will call. Almost all of the time. And some of us are secretly waiting for that day. We lie to ourselves and say we are not. Or we tell ourselves we won't respond. And that is fine for those of us who don't respond.
But I am talking to the other one's like me...the one's that fall for the contact, want to get re-involved with the narc, and get sucked back into the same misery and lies that we worked so hard to get out of.
Maybe a discussion of what you would do if the narc called today is in order. Maybe a discussion of what you want to do. Maybe a discussion of what you should do. Maybe looking at what happens to others will help get our thinking real straight as to what we really want out of life. And what we are willing to do to get it!
I get so sad when one of us gets used again. It is so pointless, and so hopeless.
None of this pain can happen without either contact or response. If we don't do those two things, we can be safe forever from the tentacles of their web of chaos and deceit!
My two cents...
ds
DS- thanks for posting
I think this is a great
Really, this is brilliant...
spinning
Really
Hi DS
Amazing post DS!
Its funny you start this
DS, this post is priceless
If he
Getting the call
Really glad you brought up this discussion
Great topic Done
I'm just going to be honest
Your honesty is sincere, and
VERY well said, DS. Hugs, CT
If I take a deep look at the
I think the discussion is
I started to do a
Exactly DS
Wow, amazing....
I've thought about this one too...
AMEN, SISTER
on any other day
Thank you for your honesty.
DS
I would say
I know what I would do..I am
Hunter!
Empath
Hunter