Now I'm very very worried
Now I'm very very worried
that I will never again be attracted physically to a man. I had my first "real" date since the breakup (last March) the other night and I wasn't at all attracted to the guy. I feel so stupid because I got all bent out of shape (not to him, just inside my head and on here) that it was taking this guy so long to call me (we met a month ago this week), but then when we did end up going out together, I just had absolutely no interest in seeing him again. He's a dentist and I had only invited him in afterwards as a politeness - I never thought he would accept, as it was already 1am and those guys have to be up early and on form every day, more than most, since they spend all day leaning over people doing microsurgery. So no late nights or booze for them. However in he came, and he kept trying to kiss me in the kitchen. All I could think was - how soon can I get this man out of my apartment?
Is this the way it's going to be? For the rest of my life am I going to be constantly comparing the way I felt around the xn in the early months to the complete lack of interest I felt the other night? I mean, maybe it's simply that I have no attraction to this guy and even if I'd never met the xn, I still would not have felt any attraction to dentist guy, but part of me is very sad and worried and bitter and angry that I'm now left in this position of wanting something so badly that I can't have (ie, the ex to come back and for everything to be like it was in the beginning). The sexual part of me just seems to be completely dead in relation to other men. I can't even concieve of sleeping with anyone. I slept with someone back during the summer but he's a guy I've known for 10 years and it was safe and familiar. I did end up becoming aroused with him but I think it was more of an automatic response from my body than any real excitement or lust or love or pleasure, if you follow me.
Has anyone else been through this and managed to revive the the sexual part of themselves? At the moment it's like the thought of touching anyone but the n fills me with disgust. I crave being back with him, feeling him holding me in the mornings. I ache to touch his beautiful hair and run my hands through it. I used to love hugging him so tight and raining kisses on him. All that part of myself and the way I express love and affection is completely cut off. I can't even imagine doing all of that with anyone else. This is genuinely frightening as we are talking about the rest of my erotic life here. Is it over already? I just feel so heavy with grief and weariness and loss and and longing and regret and bitterness and envy of the new woman.
And for the first time in
Hook
Lisa:
No, it is not dead completely
Fuss?
You're right - I was
We are both saying the same thing
You've gotten so much great
girlfriday
I know what you mean, but on
Hook
RED FLAG
I wasn't in any danger of
Its the same for me...
I'm glad to hear that you
Those feelings are
This hurts to say
I too have a hard time even
Briseis, I so know what you mean...
Thanks for sharing that BAW
"If I end up realizing what
High five SLAP! :D
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yeah i was a sexual machine
'yeah i was a sexual machine
awe :(
Fireflie, when he was
yes ma'am
That is so fucking sadistic,
fierflie