Not sure what to think
Not sure what to think
Ex-N and I have been apart for some time now, even though we till work at the same gym-he owns, I train there. We have actually done a pretty good job of separating altho it is has NOT been easy.
So he found out that I have been out on a few dates with someone...which I have every right to do. He got very sad/upset and said that he cannot fathom the thought of me with another man and that I can no longer work there, which is fine. He was not angry or mean, but sounded genuinely hurt and said he just can't handle it (surprising reaction) My last day is Friday.
However he has now dropped the bomb on me telling me that he misses me, he realizes where he messed up,that he still has emotions, feelings and love for me and wants to "start over" again. Prior to this he had pretty much cut me off cold turkey and his explanation was that he was trying to get over issues in our past relationship so that he could start fresh with me (I was unaware of these "plans") He said him knowing that I went out with someone else made him realize his feelings and just how much he wants me and to be with me. I am not sure if you can search old posts but my ex-N is a Narc in every sense of the word. When he told me these things, he looked so very sad though-in a way I have never seen him look. He then says he feels he has lost me to someone else, that he has burned a bridge and that I have moved on and that he knows it is all his fault.
My instincts are to drop the new guy I've been out with and run back to him. I still have a lot of feelings for N that I cannot deny. He seems so genuinely hurt that I am wanting to believe that he really does want to get back with me and make it work this time. My heart wants me to call him up, tell him he is the one for me and that I want to be with him...but then my head is telling me is this a game? Is he doing this because his ego is bruised and he didn't win and no longer has control over me? My fear is that I go back and in time, the same bad stuff will happen again. But could he really change? I am so confused and a mess :( :(
Yep... The 4 year old and the discarded toy....
been there done that
My only explanation for my
Good for u girl!!! U can do
This is good. Congrats on
It's up to you to match your
Still holding strong today! I
I remember reading this
Yep, Goldie, and GG, here's a little
AMEN GOLDIE & SPINNING. even
a new perspective
Believe in yourself!
You say he's a Narc.. But you
I'll tell u what I know
RUN like your house is on fire!
This thread of comments is exactly what I needed!
Apologies from a narc, even
If you weren't dating....he
Its always the same story. My
the guy I knew
Byron??? Absolutely hilarious!!!