Not sure what to think

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#1 Jan 14 - 6PM
GymGirl98
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Not sure what to think

Ex-N and I have been apart for some time now, even though we till work at the same gym-he owns, I train there. We have actually done a pretty good job of separating altho it is has NOT been easy.

So he found out that I have been out on a few dates with someone...which I have every right to do. He got very sad/upset and said that he cannot fathom the thought of me with another man and that I can no longer work there, which is fine. He was not angry or mean, but sounded genuinely hurt and said he just can't handle it (surprising reaction) My last day is Friday.

However he has now dropped the bomb on me telling me that he misses me, he realizes where he messed up,that he still has emotions, feelings and love for me and wants to "start over" again. Prior to this he had pretty much cut me off cold turkey and his explanation was that he was trying to get over issues in our past relationship so that he could start fresh with me (I was unaware of these "plans") He said him knowing that I went out with someone else made him realize his feelings and just how much he wants me and to be with me. I am not sure if you can search old posts but my ex-N is a Narc in every sense of the word. When he told me these things, he looked so very sad though-in a way I have never seen him look. He then says he feels he has lost me to someone else, that he has burned a bridge and that I have moved on and that he knows it is all his fault.

My instincts are to drop the new guy I've been out with and run back to him. I still have a lot of feelings for N that I cannot deny. He seems so genuinely hurt that I am wanting to believe that he really does want to get back with me and make it work this time. My heart wants me to call him up, tell him he is the one for me and that I want to be with him...but then my head is telling me is this a game? Is he doing this because his ego is bruised and he didn't win and no longer has control over me? My fear is that I go back and in time, the same bad stuff will happen again. But could he really change? I am so confused and a mess :( :(

Jan 15 - 2PM
indifferent
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Yep... The 4 year old and the discarded toy....

Jan 15 - 12PM
violetfawn
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been there done that

Jan 15 - 10AM
Goldie
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REALLY?

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #44)
GymGirl98
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My only explanation for my

Jan 15 - 4PM (Reply to #48)
brinamarie
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Good for u girl!!! U can do

Jan 15 - 3PM (Reply to #47)
Journey
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This is good. Congrats on

Journey on...

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #45)
Hunter
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It's up to you to match your

Jan 16 - 12PM (Reply to #46)
GymGirl98
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Still holding strong today! I

Jan 15 - 11AM (Reply to #43)
talktothehand
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I remember reading this

Jan 15 - 10AM (Reply to #41)
spinning
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Yep, Goldie, and GG, here's a little

spinning

Jan 15 - 11AM (Reply to #42)
brinamarie
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AMEN GOLDIE & SPINNING. even

Jan 15 - 10AM
terri
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a new perspective

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Jan 15 - 8AM
Hunter
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You say he's a Narc.. But you

Jan 16 - 1PM (Reply to #38)
sunshine30
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WOW

Jan 15 - 4AM
Brit
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I'll tell u what I know

Jan 15 - 4AM
talktothehand
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Gymgirl

Jan 14 - 10PM
Pumpkin
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You

Pumpkin

Jan 14 - 9PM
round3
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Hey gymgirl!

Jan 14 - 9PM
Journey
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RUN like your house is on fire!

Journey on...

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #30)
done as dinner
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This thread of comments is exactly what I needed!

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #31)
Journey
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Apologies from a narc, even

Journey on...

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #32)
talktothehand
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Apologies

Jan 14 - 9PM (Reply to #29)
BagofCrazy
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Narc-hole....hahahaha! I'm

Jan 14 - 9PM
Deidre99
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If you weren't dating....he

Jan 14 - 7PM
brinamarie
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Its always the same story. My

Jan 15 - 3AM (Reply to #14)
talktothehand
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This is

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #23)
indifferent
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HEHEHEHEH BRILLIANT!!!!!

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #24)
talktothehand
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the guy I knew

Jan 15 - 2PM (Reply to #25)
indifferent
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Byron??? Absolutely hilarious!!!

Jan 16 - 3AM (Reply to #26)
talktothehand
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Pathetic