New here & in need of some help
New here & in need of some help
Hello,
I have spent the past few days and nights reading here and have now decided to see if perhaps in the way in which I see others are fortified, perhaps I can be too.
I'm not sure I'm in the right place. After reading so many of your stories I am feeling a bit guilty as I feel lucky when I read of what so many women (and some men) have suffered.
But I found this site after not being able to make sense of so much hurt.
I have been with my boyfriend for two years. 2 months ago I moved to another country to be with him after he promised to marry me. When I got there, he told me the marriage 'is on hold.' I knew something wasn't right after a few days. He said 'there are drips on the floor.'- after I had taken a shower. I didn't know how to respond to this, but the tone made me afraid.
In the end I had to leave, he asked me to come back and when I did he told me I am a monster and sick and need help. I have no come back to my own country but with nothing and all my things are in his place. He told me that I am insecure and that he is afraid of me. But I'm not a bad person, I tried so hard.
When I left, he said he would take my bags to a bus stop but that he wouldn't come with me to the airport, when I gently tried to explain that maybe it would be the nice thing to do if to come, he called me a princess and got angry. In teh end just to calm him down I agreed but inside I was hurting.
I am now back in my country but with no job, or money and all my things at his place. I wrote to him a few days ago after he called me and said that he would do anything to make me happy. So I wrote and said just a bit of commitment to honour his words would be a start. he wrote back very hurtful words, saying that he is afraid of me and my anger, that he does not think he can make me happy and that he is afriad I will hate him. He ended by saying my coming to him was a burden. I am so confused. he encouraged me to quit my job and then when I got to him he ignored me and I had to try and occupy myself in a strange country.
He says I am to blame for our fighting, I have tried to ask myself how but I can't see how I did when all the fights started when I just told him I felt ignored.
What must I do. He has not contacted me for three days and I am supposed to be going back in 4 weeks, but I'm scared to go back. Why hasn't he got in touch? I just don't understand.
I feel so bad.
Can someone help me make sense of what feels to be a nightmare.
Thank you,
Athena
ATHENA
Today's ramblings- I know read everything as manipulation-right?
Athena
Athena
Agnes
Athena
Agnes - I know he is PD
You have to know how to read between the lines...
Michele15
Susie
Michele115
Athena
:-) Thanks Michele
I am so sorry that it
I Understand Completly
Athena
Goldie - response & update
Ignoring It
I did the exact same thing
yes Goldie
Goldie
Athena
Thank you Hunter
Welcome to the board Athena
Goldie
umm.. ATHENA....so what happens when
What Girl just said is on spot
Thank you girlsinger
Athena
Dear Hunter- to you and general update on my situation