Narcs with Insomnia Issues???
Narcs with Insomnia Issues???
Mine had a constant struggle with insomnia. It was a big part of our relationship. It exhausted me, irritated me, and drove me crazy. It started when we were engaged, the week before he started his first job. If we were on a vacation and he was tired it was because of the insomnia. He couldn’t be on his “A-game” when he couldn’t sleep. He wasn’t himself when he couldn’t sleep. If we had some type of social event to go to, he would talk about how he wasn’t going to be able to be “the life of the party” he hadn’t slept. This went on for about 5 years. Eventually, he moved in another room because he could sleep better that way.
He used to tell me information that he found on websites on how hard it was for family members to understand his situation with insomnia and how they should just be patient because it wasn’t his fault. He refused to take something like Ambien, etc., because he read online stories about how addictive it was.
He always blamed his insomnia on his “big secret”. He believed that it was the root of his problem. (He claimed that his father was a different race and that he wasn’t living his life “honestly” since he didn’t tell people this and was keeping it “quiet”. Maybe he was…. but he didn’t look like it, he never met his father/knew his name, and this was told by his crazy druggie/alcoholic biological mother).
I used to encourage him to see a counselor to talk about his problems…. Maybe that would help him sleep. He saw one (but only one time) and didn’t like him because the counselor didn’t understand his need to make a big deal out of his “race.” (He wanted a big, dramatic announcement. I always thought the whole “announcement” thing was ridiculous and threatened to leave if he did something so embarrassing).
My patience ran out when I had a baby and BARELY SLEPT while still managing to make it to work (he was working out of town during the week at this time.) Sometimes he would leave work because he couldn’t sleep. I think the baby was my big wake-up because I had always been willing to listen to his insomnia issues. I was at the end of my rope. He decided that announcing it to people he worked with would help (yes, telling his “secret” to a group of people at the same time) … he was still having sleeping problems last time he & I talked about it even though he has been sharing his “secret.” Of course, by then his sleeping problems were blamed on the marital problems.
Sometimes I still feel guilty because I couldn’t deal with it all but I’m caring less and less. Even writing all of this out, I feel somewhat selfish. Maybe I am, but I guess it’s all what you can and can’t deal with and it’s just more than I can handle.
Just an FYI..Because mine had
Mine had insomnia issues and
moving back to the ow has cured his insomnia
Looking at this old post
OMG i just thought of something else
so creepy, mine has had insomnia for years
finally faced it
not my fault.
MIne had not only insomnia but horrible stomach pains...
Yes! Mine had horrible
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YES total insomnia
YES!! Insomnia. And he would
Yes,,early morning, like what?
amazed--you hit a good point.
Sleep without dreams
Yup mine couldnt sleep
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