LOOKING TO START AN EXERCISE BUDDIES GROUP!

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#1 Apr 9 - 9PM

Arwen

LOOKING TO START AN EXERCISE BUDDIES GROUP!

I have a proposal if anyone's interested cause I really need the support. So on Weight Watchers I have lost approx. 62 pounds since the birth of my younger son. I love working out and I love Yoga, but since the demise of the relationship I have been so depressed at times (this week for example) that I only could get myself to go the gym once. I initially got crackin cause I wanted to look great for him of course, but the truth is, it makes me feel GREAT with or without him.

So here's my plan: we form a group for people who want to be in, and we must exercise every day, try to plan out our workout the day before if possible (and this could be as little as a walk), and then report our workouts to each other on this board. This way, we would have to be accountable to someone other than ourselves, and I think it would help me tremendously knowing that I had to document my exercising to someone else or to a whole group.

The workouts have helped my mood and body so much - ANYONE IN??

#2 Apr 12 - 7AM

Playedwithfire

that is very inspiring. I

that is very inspiring. I have been on WW for about a month now! Super exicted for this new journey.

Playedwithfire

#3 Apr 11 - 8PM

Lisa E. Scott

Great idea!

PatienceGoal - LOVE this idea! Working out helps me so much! If I don't do it, I quickly fall into a depression. Being out of work right now, if I don't force myself to work out, I could easily get depressed. Today, I got up and went straight to the gym. 3 miles running on the treadmill and half hour of weights (mostly lower body). I love this idea. If you'd like, I can make this thread appear at the top of the Path Forward Forum. Exercise is definitely part of the steps. I talk about it specifically in Step 6! In my opinion, it is critical to our well-being. Sitting around only keeps us stuck. We have to get the body moving. Kickboxing tomorrow! xoxo

#4 Apr 11 - 8PM (Reply to #39)

Arwen

p.s.

sorry you're out of work :-( I thought this forum was your work and your books!

#5 Apr 11 - 8PM (Reply to #35)

Arwen

Lisa!

I'm so glad you like the idea..of course put it in the Path Forward forum - that would be amazing! Since this buddies group formed a couple of days ago, my competitive side has kicked in and I have felt like "man I better get off my lazy ass or what I am I gonna say to these women?" LOL. You ran three miles? That's fantastic. I am working up to jogging on the treadmill but when I get on it I mostly hike up really steep inclines. does the running hurt your knees? It kills mine. Anyway let's get this group off the ground! xoxo

#6 Apr 11 - 9PM (Reply to #36)

Lisa E. Scott

PatienceGoal

Great, I will put a sticky on a thread, which will move it and keep it at the top of the messageboard. I will title it: "Pink Ladies Exercise Group" for now Not sure if you like that name. LOL It just hit me as I'm typing here. We should open up the name of the group for suggestions. Perhaps, we pick a name for ourselves that has something to do with kicking narc butt or something. LOL Kickboxing is my favorite work out. I have so much aggression, it's easy to kick box with a target in mind. :) I love Billy Blanks Taebo DVDs. I highly recommend doing them and screaming your Narcs name everytime you throw a kick or a punch. In fact, I've often dreamt of creating a unique kickboxing class for women getting over abusive relationships. I think it would be incredibly healing and so needed. We might as well start formulating that idea here? Any certified trainers? I think this idea could go a long way. We have tons of aggression to get out and after kickboxing for 30-45 minutes, I always feel incredible! Please note: When I put a sticky on a post, it sends it to the top of the messageboard, but it doesn't put a yellow flag on it when someone makes a new post. Not sure why? I'll check with my webmaster tomorrow to see if it's possible for "sticky posts" to be flagged for new comments. Until then, I encourage anyone interested in posting there to look closely for new posts. Oh, and thanks PG, to answer your question: Unfortunately, writing books doesn't pay the bills. I am an HR professional looking for work. If anyone knows of anything in the Chicago area, please let me know at [email protected]. I'm so excited about our new exercise group, PG! Thanks for starting it! xoxo

#7 Apr 12 - 7AM (Reply to #38)

Goldie

Excellent, Lisa

Exercise is my savior in all of this as well. When we get the body moving, the mind follows. This is exciting, thanks Patience for a fantastic idea!!! Goldie

#8 Apr 11 - 10PM (Reply to #37)

Arwen

Hmmm wish I were in Chicago

Hmmm wish I were in Chicago to help out. Re: kickboxing, it does sound great and for obvious reasons, but I started the group idea with the thought in mind that we would all do what we are comfortable with and what we individually like to do. For instance, I do practice martial arts in the form of Krav Maga which is Israeli hand-to-hand combat, but it's occasional, and my real true peace does not come from kicking, rather, from Yoga and weight lifting. So maybe there is a way to combine the two??? Or have a separate listing for the kickboxking? I don't know how you would do that. Thanks for being open about it...

#9 Apr 11 - 8PM

Jewwell

Yoga

Went to Yoga yesterday -- I am a newbie...so I signed up for a 6 week beginner class that starts Wednesday night. Relaxed. Stress-free. YEAH!!!

#10 Apr 11 - 8PM (Reply to #31)

Arwen

Woohoo!

Great news! You are a newbie to Yoga or this site? Wasn't sure. If it's Yoga I'm so happy for you - it has changed my life for so long now...don't know who I would be without it. YEAH!

#11 Apr 11 - 8PM (Reply to #32)

Jewwell

A newbie to Yoga and returnee to the site.

I am a newbie to Yoga- I have been going to these free "park and rec' classes for a few weeks and I love it! I need to learn all of the poses 'cuz I keep having to turn my neck to watch every move the teacher makes! I joined the Board in the late summer Fall when I was having problems with the N and his threats -- took a break from the Board -- broke NC -- and now I am back to the Board.

#12 Apr 11 - 8PM (Reply to #33)

Arwen

Well congrats on both counts!

Well congrats on both counts! I have only been on these boards for a couple of weeks and I feel like a new person. Not new to narcs or self-help unfortunately, but new to this board and thrilled. Thanks for joining the exercise group. It helps me so much to do something for myself and to occupy my mind elsewhere. So what are you doing for exercise tomorrow? :-)

#13 Apr 11 - 8PM

Arwen

checking in workout status for today

So far today did 45 min yoga and will do about 20 min more before bed. Had to really push myself but once I was in it felt really good.

#14 Apr 11 - 8AM

ifinallygotit

helldweller and patiencegoal

i will ride for 90 min and stretch for 15. I am sorry you guys both had contact with your N's but also jealous that yours care enough to make contact. Mine acts like I do not exist after 10 years...I called him after 4 months - got little from him. He was nice in a ghostly way, very quiet and guilty but still no explanation, no apology, no good bye.

#15 Apr 11 - 9AM (Reply to #27)

Arwen

ifinally

ok so up and at em! Get the riding done and the stretching done then we'll talk about narc if you like.

#16 Apr 11 - 11PM (Reply to #28)

ifinallygotit

had a good day

I rode for 90 minutes but only strectched for a few. Icing a minor injury now...but a fun day. tomorrow will be a busy work day so if my foor injury heals i will walk 20 min and swim 10 min. If foot hurts i will do 20 min stretching and toning on floor. My goal is at least 30 minutes 7 days a week. thanks for the support patience goal

#17 Apr 11 - 9AM (Reply to #25)

Arwen

Fingot it

What contact? My ex N has not made contact in about two months. I am not sure if I incorrectly wrote that he contacted me sorry. But I understand you trust me. I am jealous of every woman on this board who gets contact. Then I think about it :-)

#18 Apr 12 - 7AM (Reply to #26)

Playedwithfire

contact!

I cringe when mine exhN texts me. We have children, so we have to be in contact. I try to keep it minimal, but when he starts asking me for stuff non kid related, I ignore and delete. So, you are lucky not to hear from him. It only does damage to you when you are trying to dig your way out of the hole. It can slow your progress or pull you back some.

Playedwithfire

#19 Apr 11 - 5AM

helldweller

Getting read to exercise

Ok, I'm going! I really, really, really don't feel like it, but I'm going to put on my damn shoes and my sweats and walk for 45 minutes. Who's with me?

#20 Apr 11 - 7AM (Reply to #22)

Arwen

Still sleeping :-)

YAY Just saw your vow...too early for me but I am going to commit now to a 90 min yoga class today, walk for one hour, or 45 cardio at gym and weights. Tell us how it goes!

#21 Apr 11 - 8AM (Reply to #23)

helldweller

patience

Ok. So I walked for an hour, but if you read my post just now, it was because the narc SPOKE to me this morning, for the first time in four months. I was walking, walking, walking off the crazy tears and reeling mind. If I didn't have kids or other responsiblities I think I would have walked to the coast, a la Forrest Gump, then turned around and walked back.

#22 Apr 10 - 11PM

Arwen

awesome strong!

#23 Apr 10 - 11PM

Steph

ok! (just saw your response

ok! (just saw your response to my other reply!) count me in then!

#24 Apr 10 - 1PM

Arwen

I did it but it was hard today! Depressed about narc and marriag

Wow this is so cool! Just got back from gym cardio 45 mintues weights 20. I really had to push myself today, I am having a tough day. At moments I felt like ah what's the use, it's over, bla bla bla, and everytime I saw a beautiful young girl with an ass you could bounce a quarter off of I thought of HIM looking at her and wanting her. JESUS CHRIST! Anyway I also had another thought about this group which was a positive thought, and that is that I thought for a moment that being proud of what we did for exercise and telling each other is almost like being the listening, proud parent to one another, which we all need I think. Anyway thanks for being there! So HAPPY I went!

#25 Apr 12 - 7AM (Reply to #18)

Lisa E. Scott

Changed my mind

Going for a run instead. Up early. Have a great day everyone!

#26 Apr 10 - 1PM

whskywmn5

GREAT IDEAL

I think this is a wonderful suggestion, and I would love to join in, maybe this will be the kickstart I need to get outside and moving again.

#27 Apr 10 - 12PM

Goldie

Great Idea

Count me in. Goldie

#28 Apr 10 - 11AM

Deidre40

I'll join!! I'm very much

I'll join!! I'm very much into working out...and weight lifting, in particular. This would be cool! :=)

#29 Apr 10 - 11AM

ifinallygotit

today

I will swim 15 min, walk uphill 15 -20 min, stretch, sit ups, and light weights 15 min. I hope this helps! Patiencegoal - I have not taught in 12 years so you may know more than me if you are a serious weightlifter - pilates and yoga help to elongate the muscles where as weights build muscle and more mass... for weight loss - twice a day aerobics for short periods is better than one long one -

#30 Apr 10 - 2PM (Reply to #11)

Arwen

finally

Let me know how it goes...sounds amazing!

#31 Apr 10 - 7PM (Reply to #12)

ifinallygotit

patiencegoal thanks!

Your idea is working for me! I walked way more than 20 min part uphill, swam and have yet to stretch and lift weights but I am a night owl so maybe later! I guess I need the group support to move my skinny, but out of shape, butt. I used to be "ripped" so its hard just being average now. I am proud that I returned to an intense sport 35 years later though...it has helped me more than any therapy. I totally need this site for support though...I feel so lucky to have it.

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