Indifference

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#1 Feb 20 - 11AM
Deidre40
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Indifference

In reading through some threads these past few days, there's so many emotions that coincide with healing. Sadness at first. Shock. Humiliation. Anger. But, then...something beautiful happens when you stay NC for long enough...you grow indifferent. I remember YEARNING for this 'emotion' last year, and it finally came. I'd say I'm even beyond that now. If I were to bump into him today, it wouldn't hurt me or phase me. Wouldn't set me back. He is like a blur.

I still come here though because I want to pay it forward so to speak. I learned so much from all of you, and this valuable site. It is important we stick together, I think...even if we've healed.

I will say when you reach indifference...you will no longer care if:

* he's spreading lies about you
* thinks you're a liar
* thinks you're a whore
* texts you in a rage
* ignores you
* tries to stomp on your reputation

No matter what he might do...if he hoovers...you won't care. It's a great day when you get here. Keep at it, if you're still struggling with the first few days/weeks of NC. YOUR LIFE AWAITS YOU...IT GETS BETTER!

A life of your choosing, I should say, awaits you. :=)

Feb 20 - 8PM
janemarie
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This was wonderful to

This was wonderful to read!!!! Im getting there and feeling better but still have my set backs.....this just proves to me that one day...it will all be a blur....I like that!! There is hope and a life to look forward to!!!! thank you!! xoxo
Feb 20 - 1PM
Jar of hearts
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Thankyou!

You have NO idea how much I needed to read this today .... Indifference now that's a place I want to get to :-) Xx
Feb 20 - 1PM
TNR1
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I honestly have no clue what

I honestly have no clue what Mr. N is doing..and I could care less. I no longer want to be with him, I no longer want to know about him, I want to move forward and close that chapter of my book for good.
Feb 20 - 12PM
walking_on_sunshine
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Agreed! Today I went to the

Agreed! Today I went to the mall to my hairdresser ( near his house ). A place I've avoided because of him and being in his area. It was so nice to not feel anxious about whether or not I'd run into him. I just didn't care.
Feb 20 - 12PM
Sparrow
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Very well said my friend. A

Very well said my friend. A life of your choosing indeed!
Feb 20 - 11AM
Deidre40
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and for those who use

and for those who use facebook... * you won't care if he claims he's fucking the playmate of the year hahahaha seriously. indifference is a great thing. but there's a cost to getting there. and that's NC. NC is the only thing that will bring you to healing, and to indifference towards your ex N's. Good luck!