Let's see, I'm going to....
wipe my hands on the bathroom handtowels (he would rage about this, and would want me to walk to the kitchen and use paper towels)
laugh loudly and often, he hated when I laugh (my family and friends love my laugh)
but most important, I will with life with zeal. (he said I was to hyper and would give me xanax)
Hugs
For me, my N didn't like it when I said the "F" word. I slipped one time and he looked at me, hugged me, and whispered in my ear "please don't say that word, it offends me"!! IT OFFENDS HIM!! OMG!! This is the man that lied, cheated, and F*&ked everything in site, yet it OFFENDS him if I say that word?? In my entire life, I have only slept with 2 men, him and my ex-husband. So, tomorrow will be nation "F*&K word day. I will say that word every chance I get. Like....wow, it's a beautiful F'n day, what a great F'n song, gosh I love my F'n cup of coffee, what a great F'n sandwich, do you know what the F'n time is right now, can a have a piece of your F'n pie, geez I'm F'n tired, I think I will go to F'n sleep!! HAHAHA!! ACgirl
my ex HATED the word FUCK lol would look at me and say "excuse me what did you sayz" like I was 5 or something lol when I told him "you heard me" he would put me in a choke hold or twist my arm behind my back! WHAT A FUCKIN DICK!!! lol
where to start. I w/sleep in late, leave dishes in the sink, not wash clothes, tease him (to myself), take my damn time doing EVERY little shittin stupid thing I choose to do tomorrow. I am not on his "hurry up" schedule. Oh...and I got a new dog yesterday. Something he was always jealous of. How dare I give attention to anything but his royal highnASS. Yuk Yuk!
ooooooh I LOVE THIS! Calling him out...he couldn't take it and I couldn't keep it in. I love picturing that flash of twisted ugliness on his face every time before he could catch himself.
Don't be a hypocrite that's so unattractive.
I'm sorry, you're just...well, WRONG.
Wow, you're really manipulative aren't you? You got busted lying, but I'm to blame because I googled your name and busted you lying?
Gee, you get really hateful when you're angry...you owe me an apology.
Hey there, Freakshow.
Oh is Mr. Hyde gone now? Excellent, let me go get ready for Dr. Jekyll.
xoxo
Lynn
Ha - same here. He hated anyone being a hypocrite. Ridiculous isn't it? Coming from a man who lives a double/triple life and lies about every single thing imagineable. And he hated my ever asking any questions - ever. From "how was your day?" to "why are you insisting on lying when I caught you red handed and you already admitted the truth??" ... When we first started dating I'd ask him what he was thinking abt - in that I want to know you Bc I love you way... After a few weeks he lost it on me and told me I should never ask him another question ever. ... I think I'm going to walk around asking every single person I see that I know how there day is tomorrow. And I'm wearing tights. He was "repulsed" by leggings or tights or god-forbid jeggings... And flats. ... I will enjoy thinking of this when I'm getting dressed in the morning!!
I'm going to buy a new coffee pot. He was always saying I never needed anything new. That included clothes for our son. I bought my son some clothes today and tomorrow I am making a killer espresso! Yay us!
were not allowed to touch the walls, at all! Especially walking up the stairs. He'd constantly be yelling "don't touch the walls!" It's not like my kids are dirty and would leave handprints. He was just a FREAK. I was sitting here thinking about what a great day tomorrow is going to be. I am going to buy paint tonight and tomorrow for Friday Night Fun for me and my kids we are going to pick a wall in their bedroom and very creatively leave our hand prints all over the wall.
It is going to be fun! and I am serious! We are allowed to paint the walls in our apartment. The only question is what color will we use....
Man, am I in a silly, stick it to the narcboy kinda mood.
Ours was a LDR so there was less history of shared space accumulated. However during my December visit he appeared to object to any evidence that I was even staying there. Anything I left in an unauthorized place, such as a pair of socks by the couch, a partially-finished cup of tea, books, even my x-mas gifts, would either be silently returned to their rightful place (if they were his) or deposited on top of my suitcase. Once he explained to me that each time he leaves a room he takes something with him, which I found rather condescending. I am NOT a slob. That visit, it was as though he didn't want any sign of my existence messing up his place. And he is the one that invited me. So to celebrate tomorrow I will leave my socks, teacups and books wherever I bloody well like in my own home. Oh wait--I already do! Ain't it great to be a free woman, and totally myself again!
Tomorrow I'll tell the truth without fear.
Freak Boy hated the truth. I stopped telling it because I was afraid of what I'd get in return.
Today I tell the truth without fear, including being honest with myself! I'll do that again and again in celebration of FREEDOM!!!!
Sincerely,
(not) spinning. AND IT FEELS GREAT
YES, just to be able to speak freely without always worrying that it'll be the wrong thing to say and we'll have another discussion about "is it worth it" to say certain things that might wound his fragile ego. Never knowing in advance, of course what it would be that would cause the wounding.
The narc used to hate the way that I didn't organise the fridge correctly and would give me 'lessons' on stock rotation and call me stupid for not doing it properly. So now my fridge is messy and I don't care.
I've also just painted my nails blue....he hated it when I did that, in fact I think I only did it a couple of times then it was easier not to.They look great this evening.
Loving this Moving ....good idea xxx
Xnh also redid everything whenever I loaded the dishwasher (complete with detailed instructions about the "correct" way to do it). I would follow his instructions the next time, just hoping to avoid another "discussion" about my apparently inept dishwasher skills.
Xnh would walk over after I'd finished doing the job "correctly" each time, and he would reload the dishwasher anyway (along with a completely different set of instructions about the "correct" way to do it). When I pointed out each time how I HAD just loaded the dishwasher the way he'd specified the PREVIOUS time, xnh would deny what he'd told me to do before, or he would tell me that I'd heard him wrong (crazy making). Apparently, according to xnh I'm completely stupid, totally deranged, AND I'm also deaf.
After a few rounds of this game with xnh, I made sure that it became "his turn" to load the dishwasher ALL of the time. I just sat back and refused to do it. Then, according to xnh, I was "a lazy, fat bitch that didn't do anything around the house". He claimed he had to do "everything or it wouldn't get done 'right'." (lie).
So now, in addition to my toilet paper rebellion, I think I'll celebrate this new "holiday" by loading everything into my dishwasher just as badly as I possibly can manage. Maybe, I'll cram the dishes into it facing all different ways, or I'll stand back in the middle of the kitchen floor and throw the dishes into the dishwasher. However, they land, that's how they'll get washed. rofl.
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just about everything pissed him off! the best was this huge blowout over not having any ketchup in the house!! how dare i not pick up ketchup when i last went to the store...if i don't ever use it, how was i supposed to know if we were out?!? after that i would buy the two-pack of the biggest bottles they had....aggrivated just thinking about it.
i went to pick up one of my children the other night...which lead to an hour conversation with the N!! him talking AT me and me being silent and fuming! but he said i am trying to change who i am with my new hairstyle!! i considered cutting bangs for years but he alway told me not to...so i finally did. i have been laughing over his ridiculous comment all week.
Tonight is grocery shopping night for me and one of the things on my list is KETCHUP. I just crossed it off the list and will wait to get it another day.
So for tomorrow I, too, will have NO ketchup in my fridge.
If you do....I think that it
I was wearing a mustache
EWWWWWWW .....the dirty
Would that be considered contact?
holding
Lol - if that is considered
movingforward
gonna
OMG!
LOL, this is great
Oh, this is FUN!!
ACgirl
I'm going to say bad words,
Oh Gosh....
ooooooh I LOVE THIS! Calling
Ha - same here. He hated
I'm going to buy a new coffee
My kids....
color?
Aww that is so cute about the
Ours was a LDR so there was
Love this, Moving!
spinning
Spinning
Agreed - perfectly put
Yes the winner.
YES, just to be able to speak
Yeah!!
Xnh also redid everything
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just about everything pissed
under his thumb