I could really use some advice...

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#1 Jan 8 - 9AM
littlemisscrazygirl
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I could really use some advice...

So, let me start off by telling you a little bit about my past. I was with what I believe was a NPD off and on for around 9 years. Currently we have split up and have been split up successfully for the last year. What I am struggling with right now is that he is courting again. Which usually isn't a problem, but for some reason right now I feel weak and confused and want to fall back into it. I know why I shouldn't fall into it and why it is a bad idea. But, I am still struggling with some questions. My first question is "Will I ever stop wanting/loving him?" It would be easier long term to stay away from him if I didn't always feel that pull to him. I know he has hurt me a lot, but I still feel like I want/love him. Mt other question is "How do you not love beyond faults?" Our oldest child has autism, and despite his issues I still love him. So, if my NPD ex has issues as well, how can I not love him despite those issues. Doesn't that seem wrong? Any help or support you can give is much appreciated. Thanks.

Jan 8 - 1PM
Im_always_fine
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Emotions are not written in

Jan 8 - 12PM
brinamarie
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NPD forms in childhood from

Jan 8 - 12PM
terri
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I know where you're coming from

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Jan 8 - 12PM (Reply to #28)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Thanks

Jan 8 - 11AM
Goldie
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Google: codependent, love addict, trauma bond...

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #26)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Thanks

Jan 8 - 10AM
Used
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littlemisscrazygirl

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #13)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Hum

Jan 8 - 1PM (Reply to #24)
Im_always_fine
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Just to be sure....you can't

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #23)
Used
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littlemisscrazygirl

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #14)
Hunter
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That's right !! Used our

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #15)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Nuts!

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #22)
Used
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littlemisscrazygirl

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #16)
Hunter
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You came here looking for

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #17)
littlemisscrazygirl
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lol I do not want to be

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #18)
Hunter
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Sounds great!! So ill

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #19)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Yes!

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #20)
Hunter
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Then Stop speaking to Him

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #21)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Will do! lol

Jan 8 - 10AM
Janie53
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LittleMissCrazyGirl

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #11)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Thanks Janie! That is exactly

Jan 8 - 9AM
Deidre99
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Be careful to not confuse

Jan 8 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Thanks

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
Snowflake
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I think the same question then applies

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #8)
littlemisscrazygirl
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We actually have three

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #9)
Snowflake
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Ah I see

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
Deidre99
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You're welcome and glad it

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
littlemisscrazygirl
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Thanks again

Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
Janie53
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Littlemisscrazygirl

Jan 8 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Deidre99
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It dawned on me, that you