I am so embarassed to post this :=(
I am so embarassed to post this :=(
I'm giving him 'another' chance. Ugh. Deep deep down...I know this is not right.
We talked tonight. He went through every single argument we have had in the past 5 weeks. I told him...I don't want to do this. He said...Noooo...we're gonna see what exactly happened, Dee. I said...why did you want me back, if now I'm on the phone with you--and you're gonna rehash everything? I said...for your own good, whether you're with me or not...you need to start taking responsibility for your actions.
He was silent. We were silent. He said...Dee, in all my marriages, no one has said that to me. Women have always called me an asshole, cursed me out, and left. (Hmmm....lol)
He is upset that I broke up with him. He cried. Not weeping. He is a very tough type, and not a crier. But, he said...I don't want to lose you, Dee. I don't. I'm afraid I'm going to, now.
We talked about wiping the slate clean. No more talk of the past. We will see. He said...he needs someone to stand by him. He said...''Dee...tell me you won't leave me again--promise me.'' I promised. He said...''say the whole sentence.'' (I promise to never leave you)
Do you find that odd? Endearing? What?
As I sit here typing this, I'm not feeling fearful or anything. I actually proved to myself (and to him) that I'm not afraid to leave. I care for him...I do believe he was hurting. But, my concern. What I read about psychopaths. I can't deny that he fits most of the characteristics. What I read last night is swirling over and over in my head.
I talked with my friend who knows him...I could hear in her voice that she thinks I made a mistake.
I hope you all haven't lost respect for me. Do you think things will be worse? My friend thinks things will be FAR worse now...because now. I will feel bad to leave him again...he will play on that, and will want to make me 'pay' for leaving him. Even if it was just 24 hours. Do you think she's right?
I truly should have stayed NC. I don't know why I felt bad about staying NC when he kept texting and 'chasing' me as he put it. But, my friend said. He chased you, because he misses controlling you.
Thanks for listening. I am going to continue to post here. It helps me. I know it doesn't seem it, but it has.
deidre, is it possible to
Ok. Nobody jump all over me
does codependent basically
Its a little more involved
Crying all morning. Good
Diedre
Or maybe just say...in a
"I can't do this anymore.
I say this in earnest,
I agree....I think he is
"But, I think I'm going to
I agree with Alisa
Journey on...
Like some of the other ladies
Diedre...I'd like to work with you one on one...
Great Assessment Michele!
Journey on...
haven't lost an ounce of
I am stunned!
Journey on...
But, he said...I don't want to lose you
also Dierdre
it's gonna hurt to do NC
Haven't lost respect for you
Yes to therapy
Deidre PLEASE DONT instead of
sickofit
Girl Borderlines are known
''Dee...tell me you won't
neverlook...
YES YES YES
Specific things
omg...why did he say that