my most recent narc is facing jail, and he asked me over and over again, "but will you WAIT for me??!!", over and over. The narc who is the one I just told you about was also in legal trouble at the time.
The traits that I read off of this link last night...these are the ones that stood out:
* bad treatment of waitresses -- very demeaning towards them
* very quickly told me he wanted to marry me
* went into panic mode...''chasing'' me with endless texts, and calls yesterday and today.
* told me he was falling in love early on
* he talks about times when he beat people up...as fond memories. like he will laugh when telling the stories. in the link, it said...stories people wish others to know, paint a picture of what they want you to know about them. so he wanted me to know he's violent. i have said to him...violence doesn't solve anything. his reply? ''dee, that is just crazy talk.'' and he laughs.
* controlling, and doesn't like me having certain friends.
* it's always my fault...everything. he takes responsibility, only when he fears losing me
* breakup panic...he sent me a flurry of calls and texts yesterday and today, after i ended things on Friday. They ranged from nasty...to pleading.
I think when we think of psychopath...we think Ted Bundy. I think there are functioning paths around us...everywhere. It's kind of scary, when I read that link!
You need to run and start NC immediately. I wanted to be reminded not just for my own ability to answer you but also for you to remind yourself of these traits. You've answered your own question. I am particularly, no - extraordinarily concerned about the bit where he describes his own physical violence towards others. You must initiate NC immediately. This is it. It's your life we are talking about now.
I also said...''I'm not your emotional punching bag.''
He said...''that is how I treated you?'' I said...yes.
Something that bothered me. He said...''I give what I get. If you are shitty to me, I'll be shitty back.'' I said...that is not love. He said...''the whole world should live like this.'' I said...it does, that's the problem. He was silent. I said. Ghandi said...''an eye for an eye, and the whole world is blind.''
He said...if the whole world was blind...everyone would be nicer.
Something about how he said it. Ugh. I don't know why I did this.
jail
Weird mine told me he would
what? who has lost respect
hi patience
Dee
I also said...''I'm not your