The gift he presents
The gift he presents
Yesterday I had such a lovely day. Spiritual. Calm. Energized. Spoiled myself and bought the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman and sat out on the balcony, which is just big enough to fit a pretty white detailed cast iron table with two chairs, and delved into it!
The thought came into my head as I was driving around town earlier that what I am most angry about is how I was so used. All the narcissist did was want, want, want, and all I did was give, give, give. This love didn’t mean a thing (to him). And how about the agony of the knowledge that at times he must have not only NOT LOVED me but in fact detested and despised me? Previously this thought could be likened to the action of a knife being plunged straight into my heart. However, although my emotions do sometimes override every logical rational thought I hold and all I feel for the N is utter contempt, I am now more inclined to view it dispassionately.
But I’m also thinking that maybe he actually did give me a gift… the most precious gift… of discovering myself. Maybe this is exactly what was meant to happen for me to become a healthy adult. I don’t mean to annoy board users with this last sentence, but please hear me out. I am not denying that I would rather not have gotten picked as his (next) victim – that I’d rather never have met the man and gone through this most expensive emotional and financial life lesson and wasted years of my life in a sick relationship – but maybe the final d&d (devalue and discard) – the one when we truly admitted to ourselves that it is the end, NO MORE – is actually a key that opens the door to a good life. Yes, it hurts – we sob, we become numb for a while, we become enraged, we struggle along, we wrestle with demons, we count the cost of our investment, we are distraught, we tremble at the injustice of it all, we are KNOCKED DOWN (and we don’t want to hear it, but he doesn’t give a flying f***. Reality check: it’s time to remember that it was HE that knocked me down – if it suited his purposes he’d spit on me, kick me in the soft of my belly, my genitals…). And then we slowly pull ourselves up, we shake off the dust, we arrange our shoulders square and jut our chin out, and we are the epitome of dignity and integrity. We are free to live life as we choose. We are alive and safe. We can be thankful – the horror is over. I AM thankful for being dethroned as King Masquerade’s wife. It was the best present he ever gave me. He would HATE IT if he knew.
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is actually a key that opens the door to a good life.
Cynthia
Masquerades
Ending the dance
Hi AnotherPath
Masquerade
serene69
Hi Masquerades
Ultra... everything...even in our relationships...
The gift I received
the written word
Peace. J
foolmeonce
GIFT????
i see where you're going with this....
To narcnarcwhosthere
masquerades
A Gift
Amen foolmeonce......
Vigilance
masquerades
Regarding the gift
masquerades
gift?
gift....??
gift
poison.....
greeting cards
polite thank yous to Narc........