A game of narc says the darnest things

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prettypeeved
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Several weeks after seducing
Several weeks after seducing me at my house to the point where we almost ended up having sex: Me: It's hard to resist you. I'm starting to think maybe I would like to have sex with you after all. Maybe it would get the urge out of my head. (This is me trying to reconcile the irreconcilable) Him: Actually I wouldn't trust you if you had sex with me whilst in a relationship with someone else. Me: *brain explodes* What? I mean what?? He tries to seduce me into something that I had real issues with and knew was wrong, and he then says he wouldn't trust me further when I've finally been screwed up mentally enough to do it??
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Xnh told me "These are YOUR
Xnh told me "These are YOUR children. You are their mother" when he wanted me to babysit at his whim, and I refused. We were not living together at the time, only dating. Xnh was forever wanting me to endlessly watch his children he while did such "important" things as playing in his band and hanging out in bars for hours on end. He would then go to work the next day, and tell everybody how "last night was HIS night to be with his kids" like he was Father Of The Year. Never mind that he didn't actually spend any time with them. He merely dumped them onto me and left for the evening. I was never their "mother" unless xnh wanted me to do something. If his ex was too busy to watch her own kids, xnh would start bullying me, and *I* suddenly became their "mother" (aka, xnh's personal slave). I found out quickly that babysitting his children also meant that I drove myself to pick them up at his ex's house, and/or allowed her into my house to drop them off. God knows, xnh shouldn't have to lift a finger in any of this. rofl. Thus, I soon started refusing to watch his kids. My stance with xnh was "They're YOUR children. YOU figure out your own arrangements." When xnh said I'm their mother, I responded with, "Oh GOOD! If I'm their mother, that means I'll never have to see your ex showing up on my doorstep again." N: "Well, no. She has a right to see her own kids. Me: "But you just said I'm their mother. How is it physically possible for two women to give birth to the same child? Since I don't remember any labor pains, or being in a delivery room, these must be HER children. If you want free babysitting, go talk to their mother." Xnh then told me that I have "no maternal instincts". Spoken by a true narc with a dick hanging between his legs. Personally, I don't think xnh would know what a "maternal instinct" was even if came up and bit him in the butt. He was angry because he wasn't getting his way. Xnh was such a piece of....something. lol

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happydaysahead
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Oh, where to start...........
I would get the "life is too comfortable with you "" WTF is that ?? I always thought that was a good thing !?!?! Then the "I can't imagine my life without you" Uhm..ok, then why did you leave 2 days later to go and be with the crack whore (not slandering, it is a proven fact) Oh and let's not forget "you are THE most selfish person I have ever met" This I would hear all the time if I did not give him what he wanted when he wanted it. It bothered me, but not too badly cuz everyone I know tells me that I do too much for others and I need to do more for me !! It was just his way of throwing a big, f*cking temper tantrum, I guess !! He is just an asshole !! I cannot tell you how happy I am that he is gone !! And he is right where he deserves to be. With the convicted crack whore, cuz he himself is a convicted felon so guess they are 2 peas in a pod !! LOL Good riddance !! :)
prettypeeved
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Me, getting somewhat angry:
Me, getting somewhat angry: Oh, so you're saying I'm needy? Him, backpedalling: Well, yes, in that you are "in need" Yeah, not quite the same thing really. And NOW who is needy, stalker?
Susan32
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Got called needy too...
The ex-Psych professor railed at me for being "needy" when I was mourning my grandfather&he'd berate me during class. He said that my neediness was driving people away. 3 years later, he was begging me for my home address... after being dumped and meeting his girlfriend. The ex-P and I had conversations like the one you posted. Him: I'm NOT GAY! I'm NORMAL! (goes off on homophobic rampage after ogling some men)
ally2375
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Gem from N#2
We're about to go to sleep after spending the day with his family. N: (for the first time) I love you. Me: (heart racing) I love you, too! N: (pulling away as I move closer to him) Let's not ruin it by having sex. Me: (confused, rejected) Oh, ok. Goodnight then. Next morning after we've gotten up and I'm about to leave for the day Me: See you later. I love you. N: Let's make a rule that if one of us says "I love you" and the other one doesn't feel like saying it back, they don't have to.
IncognitoBurrito
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WHOA!
That just blew me away. How the f- did we not catch on sooner? None of these narc words sound close to anything resembling love! I guess, it's all dependent upon context. At the time, with the history, in a certain mood... at an angle... nope. Nevermind, still stings. Totally unacceptable.
helldweller
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ally
Now THAT is the N relationship in a nutshell. Jesus.
really
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N: I'm going to make you my
N: I'm going to make you my own personal hand puppet. (We quoted Seinfeld a lot, so just assumed it was another of those random quotes - not!) N: I just got things done around here this weekend. (When I knew he had some whore over.) N: I don't know how you survive in this world. (Because I didn't want to go up and buy more pulltabs! Huh?!) N: I never said that. (That he loved me. Yeah, I just made it up, right?!) So, so many more....
helldweller
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oh and
Not only the narc but also his brother commented on my two beautiful, sweet, loving, kind, smart, talented daughters After four years of the narc expressing his total, undying love for us, his desire to be a family, his affection for my little girls, his inability to live without us, I found out about his five other women and, while I wept and reminded him of his promises us, he said: "Why would you think that anyone would want you and your kids?" After we'd been together two years and were painting "our" house to move into with my daughters, he got his four year old foster child. We went to a party and the narc was goofing around with my daughters in the pool. This was after the foster child had been with him for three months and my daughters for more than two years. His brother didn't know I was standing behind him and he said to the others there: "What the hell does he want with them? He's GOT a kid!" Everyone was dead silent and sort of cleared their throats. I walked away. When I told the narc what he'd said, the narc said, "Oh. Sorry."
helldweller
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The darndest things
After I found out he'd had another "exclusvie" girflriend the entire time--four-plus years we were together, that he and "our" foster child spent dozens of weekends with her in her hotel room downtown, that she spent time with his family and friends, spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with her when he told me he had to work, and that he visited her for a week in California, and that he asked this woman to be "our" foster child's godmother AND that apart from her he had at least FOUR other women he'd been banging for anywhere from two to thirty years, he said, by way of explanation, "Honey, many people do many things for me, and I'm sorry you don't appreciate that. My universe is very, very big. I would think that that you of all people would understand that. It's very disappointing."
really
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Geez, that's just disgusting.
Geez, that's just disgusting. Ridiculous.
onwithmylife
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We had been
going together for over 10 years and he tells me he is moving to another state and going to stay with this older womaN, he has been friends with for many years, plutonic only, he wanted sex with her and she did not, she only likes younger men ,that is some loving relationship??!! NOPE
ally2375
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Here's a fun conversation
Here's a fun conversation from N #1. We were practically living together, dating two years. N: I ran into ex-girlfriend last night. Me: (nervously) Really...where? N: She came in to my work. We went for a drive and...talked. Me: (suspicious) Uh-huh. Right. You "talked" or did more than that? N: We might have kissed... Me: (silent) N: I only kissed her, I swear! She told me she loves me and I guess I sort of said the same thing back. (pleading) It doesn't have to change anything between us! Me: What?! You saw ex, kissed her, told her you were still in love with her, but none of that changes anything between us? Why be with me if you're in love with her? N: Well, she's living with a guy. She doesn't want to break up with him. Me: (silently starting to pack) I left him immediately after that conversation. As I was packing, he started shouting about how stupid I was that I didn't know he was still in love with his ex (who he'd never said a kind word about before that day.) Two weeks later, he had a new girlfriend (not the ex.)
Goldie
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Yeah, I need a laugh bright and early in the a.m.
"I never loved you. I was cheating on you and using you the whole time." When I started crying. "What is wrong with you? You believe the things I tell you that are not true and don't believe the things that are true." Oh, O.K. that makes sense. NOT!!! My personal favorite is: "You have a mushy (female area)." Oh, O.K. and how is it supposed to be? Hard??? "You are the love of my life, I will never cheat on you, leave you, and want to marry you." Really now, you don't say!!! This is as he is robbing me blind, insulting me, destroying my house, and hitting me on occasion. Hmmmmmmmm sounds like a marriage made in heaven, NOT NOT NOT!!! This is with no foreplay mind you: "I don't like a dry p----, I cannot be with a dry p----." LOL, that one really cracks me up. Well how do you suppose it gets wet, ass----??? Yeah, that is enough laughs for one session, don't want to set myself reeling too badly this morning. Goldie
neverlookback
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wish mine would have said that to me
that I had a mush P---y because I would have told him well you have a muchy penis all the time mr ED
Goldie
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lol
That would have been a great comeback. Bummer I did not think of it at the time. My mother taught me to NEVER say anything about someone's looks or body parts because they cannot do anything to change it; it is the way they were born. Having said this: this man provoked me to the edge of the earth and one day I looked at him in disgust and told him: "You have no chin, your eyes are bulging, you have buck teeth, and you look like a turtle." These guys definately bring out the worst in us; no question. He had me acting just like him towards the end. PATHETIC!!! Goldie
Susan32
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I was mocking him...
The ex-Psych professor didn't know how to handle me telling him that HE should've moved to LA to be an actor/model--he should've joined his girlfriend in LA (instead of the other way around) I gave him the "you need to lose some weight, get your teeth fixed" (his were rotting away) lecture, all masked in "I'm your guru" kindness, gently reminding him that he's not Colin Firth. On the surface, I was giving him helpful, friendly advice! I wanted the plausible deniability.
ImStrong
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"My personal favorite is:
"My personal favorite is: "You have a mushy (female area)." Oh, O.K. and how is it supposed to be? Hard???" goldie really how is it suppose to feel..this man boy probably is into pricks instead of tits....lol really thats how it suppose to be..loser

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

prettypeeved
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Should have said "Well in
Should have said "Well in that case, honey, why don't you insert your penis into a bear-trap? I'm sure that won't be mushy."
sara-smile
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Prettypeeved
Haaaa Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! That is great!! Thanks for the laugh! I need to start writing down the great comments like this one so if I ever speak to Narc Boy again and he's spewing his stupidity I can have something to slam back in his face!
Goldie
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Ha ha ha
OMG, you are so funny. I will never forget this one. Next time that ever crosses my mind I will go right to the bear-trap visual and laugh. Thanks, Goldie
Goldie
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Yes
My thoughts exactly. They are unbelievable. Goldie
onwithmylife
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Goldie
I think going over all this is good therapy, it makes you realize how nuts they are and you are not alone, yours are some good ones too!
Goldie
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Yes, it does help
Writing it down makes us see how absurd they are and to hear that others said the same thing is sad; yet validating to the fact that this is not us it is them. Thanks, Goldie
ImStrong
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Onwithmylife..thats what im
Onwithmylife..thats what im saying..if I knew how good of a thread would be..i would of made it long ago..they get weirder and weirder

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

onwithmylife
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He said to me
years ago, I never loved you I just wanted us to get a house together so i could drive you off the cliff and get the house, when i called him on it much later he said he was only kidding/joking, SOME JOKE. He wished I had larger breasts when I went to visit him in the hospital but later said on his own that my breasts were just right, how kind of him.
sweetsamm
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so many,so sick
left me a message on my phone when i wouldnt answer....he said..'i hope you die in a fiery car crash,i hope you melt to the steering wheel'...'i've fucked so many of your friends,we laugh about you while i'm fucking them' (turns out he was 'fucking' my best friend..and numerous other whores in my town..'i never loved you,'...'you're a fucking fat cow','you're an old hag'...i could go on and on,and the part that feels so good..is the fact that i can laugh at these ridiculous words..what a sad sad pathetic short little man...what doesn't kill us,only makes us stronger....so true:)
ImStrong
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"what doesn't kill us,only
"what doesn't kill us,only makes us stronger....so true:)" Praise the Lord...wow hes a jerk of jerks his d?ck should rot repeatively

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

sara-smile
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Stupid Narcs
There are just so many to choose from! N - I could have any woman I want! I've had plenty of offers but I chose you! (Yay for me!) N - I will always love you until the day I die and you are my everything but the new GF can give me what you can't. I do miss having sex with you every minute of every day. Can we please get together soon? (Sure you idiot! When hell freezes over and pigs fly) N - I don't know why that girl showed up at my house and said I invited her here! She is obviously insane! Look at her! She's ugly! (yeah buddy but she had a pulse and you thought I was out of town!) My favorite: N - You belong outside with the trash! (while he was dragging me out the door) It doesn't even hurt to type this stupidity anymore. It actually makes me laugh.