Fireworks !
Fireworks !
Hope you all had a great 4th!
I went out of town -again- =) operation NC ninja was in effect and EX doesn't like it one bit. I said was because I had a small set back.
He called/texted alot right up to the 4th of july pestering to know if I would attend friends party? he texted numerous times again I reminded him that I wasn't going to be available to him or answer to him anymore about my plans but , No I wouldn't be going.
He wrote me a long response about how much he loved me and saying how he would just 'going to wait me out' and he would 'wait for me to realize that I wont find better than him out there' and that I take for granted that people click the way we do and our passion & it will just take a little while for me to realize what we had ...blah blah blah
he begged me to take him back. Here is just a snipet from his email:
"babe PLEASE LISTEN to me and let's just take this a step in a more postitive direction, steps that bring us closer instead of farther out of each other's lives. I am so inlove with you so much I don't want to walk away from you or lose you. I will never jeopardize us again I know how foolish I was. You know I have seen the error of my ways"
so I wrote him back telling him that 'he was right!' what he HAD ...WAS..special. All past tense. I did love him. I wish it had never happened but no going back now. (I had been attempting NC and admit it's hard to turn it off completely still.)
I went to my sisters house for the weekend again and she invited me along for the fireworks at the park and waited like everyone else for the show to start.
I noticed him sitting about 50 feet away. Sitting alone in a chair watching me. I had no idea how long he had been there. My heart rate shot up. We were there for about 15 mins when I noticed him. He showed up at the park where we were. Did he follow me from her house? It's not a stretch for me to be with her out of town but for him to know and show up?!
I told my sister -who told her boyfriend and he seemed to want to handle it. I didn't let him. I asked them to please stay sitting and I walked over.
He was upbeat and acted like it was just another day and said 'happy 4th!' I asked him how long he had been here? and he said since 4pm !! I told him that I would prefer he leave and he said it was a public place and asked if I wanted a drink from his cooler? Why wasn't I happy to see him? he said he was very happy to see me here alone. I told him I wasn't alone and he said 'you know what I mean' I asked why he didn't go to friends party? he said because he wanted to know where I was 'more'.
I told him it was pretty basic info that he can predict I will be with my sister and he said 'insurance' and smirked. I went back over to my blanket and my sister asked if we could move I told her I didn't mind and her boyfriend went over and told EX not to follow.
We moved far away over and away from him. AS the fireworks exploded I felt him all over me still and it was strange to feel comfort knowing where he was too. After the show we packed up like everyone else and he walked up to me and I instantly felt the tension rise in everyone. He asked if he could drop me off? I am not sure how it all happened but sister's BF got really sick of EX (who was now walking with us back to the lot) and they had a small loud altercation (enough to get attention) and I became the peace maker.
After this semi=fight EX kept saying to me 'just ride in MY CAR WITH ME and we will follow them!" he basically had a effing melt down in the parking lot embarassing me that it would 'all end right now just talk to me - just us' and 'I will follow their car, promise!'
I can't even understand how it happened. But as soon as I was inside his car I could feel my sisters disapproval and stare from her vehicle.
The smell of his car brought back so so many memories. And, there I was giving him all the gratification he wanted after ignoring and doing well (and I thought strong) even after going out of town..I was in his car..again.
After the chaos and fight I gave in to his persistance to talk once again. He grabbed and held my hand over the drive and said 'remember this?" held up our clasped hands and kissed my hand. I told him to stop and he started telling me how much he misses me and he can't stop thinking of me. He kept looking over at me and I would tell him to stop and he would say 'stop what?' stop looking at me! He said he just like looking at me and would try to keep his eyes on the road. I watched him and didn't talk and the red lights of the other car lit up his face. I wanted it all to be okay.
I didn't want to talk. In these sweet moments I feel sentimental and I can't speak or trust my feelings so I just tried my best to keep my mouth shut.
It felt good for a moment again I knew I was slipping big time and I was getting out of his car. I didn't have any fight in me I don't get it why I didn't. Where was that fire in my belly?
he held my hand and kissed it and pulled me forward and kissed me and it was so powerful it was better than the fireworks
I wanted him so badly. I just stayed quiet.
He kissed me again multiple times on the ride home. He grabbed the back of my neck and softly asked me asked me to come back with him. He told me I couldn't kiss him like that and say that I felt nothing for him. He told me not to tease him. All this softly spoken in to my ear which is one of my spots (ahem). He pulled up to my sisters house and I had no time before she was there at the door knocking on my window.
She opened my side door and said ' GET OUT NOW!' and she grabbed my arm said ' Nice try EX!!NOT TONIGHT!!! and walked me inside. When we got inside she asked me 'WTF?!" and "EXACTLY, how STUPID ARE YOU!?' were a few of her words.
her BF came inside and got upset with me too and told me not to come to their home and cooperate in any way with 'that guy' who 'we thought you broke up with' and 'what the hell were you thinking?!" !! he was only slightly nicer than she was and i got plenty of feedback about my drama behavior and sending mixed signals and I they didn't know what was happening to me when I got in his car.
I told them both I felt safe in the traffic with them in the car ahead of us and I didn't mean to make them upset. I regret what I did and what I allowed to happen. I am pretty down on my self tonight. I apologized them both more than once.
I am afraid that I have established a pattern with him now and he will be testing my boundaries and efforts at NC more than ever.
***** happy 4th!*****
thanks for listening tonite
This
Bada,...here is why you are addicted to him
I screwed up
We are not judging you Bada,
Journey on...
Nobody here is angry. The
Badabing, he's stalking you.
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
sad u are right =(
Don't beat yourself up.
Smitten Kitten is correct.
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
bada, myst just said it all!
spinning
Don't you dare beat yourself
Don't you dare beat yourself
BadaBing
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Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Just some food for thought....
be kind
Giggles...Sigh....
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Badabing!!! Where is that
i need it
When I read your posts
no that part was in there b
Sugar
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Okay
if I am honest
Don't know what to say, but
Smooth????
all I can say
Therapy is good for me
not my choice
Well said DS!
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playing pretend