Every woman in his past or present

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Oct 23 - 3PM
onwithmylife
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They

hate women and I still say it stem s from mommy issues growing up..
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #17)
peanutbutterfrogs
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I understand a little

The thing about him was, he didn't ever say his mom was a bad mom to him... or did he? He was beaten badly as a child by a group of boys, and he said that nothing was ever done about it. Am wondering about that now.
Oct 23 - 3PM
Hunter
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The only person they don't

The only person they don't complain about is themselves.. They are Perfect. The truth is they are 100% defected from head to toe, inside and out. YUCK!! Hunter
Oct 24 - 8PM (Reply to #15)
ready2receive
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Good point

Come to think of it, the xN never complained about himself...no self-depricating comments at all! It's almost unreal. If I didn't read all of these posts, I would think I was living in the Twilight Zone.
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #14)
peanutbutterfrogs
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When finally breaking down

It wasn't pretty. I begged and cried and spewed, and tried so hard to get him to understand my feelings. His response? I don't know why you have such a sh*tty perception of me when all I try to do is love you. Nothing about him was wrong or needed addressed. He is perfect.
Oct 23 - 3PM
rosedewittbukater
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They are misogynists

Read Sam Vaknin, he has written extensively on this subject. Think of Little Rascals "He-Man Woman Hater's Club". Mine was a woman that hated other women...sad.
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #12)
peanutbutterfrogs
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Remember

I remember that episode actually on the Little Rascals. Haven't read all of Sam Vaknins book yet, just bits and pieces. Think I've been avoiding it...
Oct 23 - 3PM
Used
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peanutbutterfrogs

he never had a good word for anyone, but women..omg yes, that sneer...he hated his mother, he didnt actually say he hated his exs, but his remarks about them were always sexual and derogatery...if he thought a male buddy was happy with a women...he would begin his slandering...if he had a good word for anyone ,it was his sister, but when i say good word it wasent much....that said she was like him...he hates everyone, and if he thinks a women has beaten him at his own game, then the poison and venom spews out of his mouth...as he does about me..and to me..
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #10)
peanutbutterfrogs
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Yeah

It seemed he always put down the women that other men in his life were with. And he would imply the men were "saints" or suckers, or just putting up with them for what he crassly referred to as "tang".
Oct 23 - 2PM
Tigerlily
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Contempt.

Mine never spoke to or about anything female without lifting one side of his upper lip in contempt. He had that expression almost constantly when talking to any woman he knew, it was only absent when he met a woman for the first time. And the content of what he said about other females behind their backs was ALWAYS derogatory. The men didn`t fare better behind their backs, but he didn`t "curl his lip" in their presence, I noticed.
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
peanutbutterfrogs
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The OW's

Those are the only women he didn't put down!!! Oh wow, just realized that!! They were on pedastals "she is such a sweet person", "she is so fun to be around", only a few, after they ignored his compliments and praises, got the put down, and even that was mild "don't know what it is about her, something just off there", "didn't like her from the get go, but tried to be friendly." Now I feel stupid, blaming myself for not seeing. Even his grown daughters are "wh*res" but their boyfriends are "okay". Am left to wonder how I could have been so blind. Here's a biggie. He told me once of his stepdaughter, when she was just 14, had contracted a STD. I was shocked and horrified. How does a 14 year old end up with an STD I asked? His answer? "She wasn't taking care of herself." (he was not involved in the girl's life at the time) Wow, just WOW.
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Syren66 (not verified)
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The ex was a serial woman

The ex was a serial woman hater. With the exception of his mom...who is also a psychopath.
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
peanutbutterfrogs
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Think I need to really

face the truth. Sometimes it hits me with so much clarity, then I withdraw. Are they all women haters? How much does it effect a person if the Dad is the one behing their dysfunction? (was emotionally detached or whatever during the N's childhood?)
Oct 23 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Immeasurably...and then

Immeasurably...and then having a mother who overcompensates for that lack of male interaction makes it even worse.
Oct 23 - 4PM (Reply to #7)
MandyM
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I believe this might have

I believe this might have been the case with my ex. His mother is incredibly vain, and his father was insecure about his mother and was picky and hard on my ex.
Oct 23 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
lana22
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So true, Syren. The stbxnh's

So true, Syren. The stbxnh's father was never around and was a womanizer himself, even had 3 children outside his marriage, and treated the xN's mother like dog shit. Although they divorced when the xN graduated from high school, the Narc's mother despised her X and overcompansated for the lack of attention and love his father never gave him or the other 4 children she had with him. It makes them much worse. He talks shit about both his parents but runs to mommy when he planned his leaving me to justify his actions before the Dand D. The stbxNh is a doctor and he talks shit about everyone. Didn't you all know he is God and the world revolves around him. Just ask him!
Oct 23 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Get This

The xN's father is very cynical and negative...used to bloviate about how evil insurance companies are (I work in that line of business, mind you) in front of me and I know he was a real prick to the ex when he was growing up. I finally told him I'd make a deal with him...that if he stopped with the comments about a business he knows thing about...I won't ever feel the need to tell him what a crock of corrupt shit I think labor unions are (he was a union steward for AT&T before he retired). The mother is just gross. The xN showed me pics of a pool party at her house when the ex was in his mid-twenties, with some of his cop buddies there...the mother is wearing a mini skirt; I mean, totally inappropriate clothing...around her son and his adult male friends. She used to grope the xN in front of me...I mean grab-ass the whole bit. She left the xN's father when the xN was 16 or 17 for some drunken idiot...and abandoned both of her kids for this guy. Then she came back, she and the xN's father reconciled...but I can't see how it's possible for the xN to not think of his own mother as a whore on a deeper level. If he can't view his own mother as pure, who CAN he see as anything other than a skank? Oh, and more red flags...told me when we were first dating that I'm built like his mom...long thin legs, etc...I was flattered, but kind of repulsed by that Oedipus complex type of confession. And she could not one-up me enough...she definitely saw me as a threat and engaged in full on passive-aggressive covert war from the time I entered his life until the day I left it. I have no doubt she has actively worked to sabotage any promising relationship he has ever had. I get what is driving him...I just don't care any more...nor do I wish to be punished for sins I didn't commit.