Being ignored

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#1 Jul 24 - 1AM
Striped
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Being ignored

I haven't been here for a year, but it's been the same old, same old. Me being priority no. 869 but hearing all about how he's been doing this with a friend or that with a neighbour. I finally told him how much it hurt me, and of course he blew up at me. We didn't speak, then he got back in touch with me. Everything seemed fine, he went away, sent me a nice message before he left, got in touch while he was away. Returned & nothing. I asked him what was going on and he said I'd asked him not to contact me, and I'd re-initiated contact (no, he had). He told me I'm obviously very confused and he feels sorry for me.

It all blew up, and he told me he'd leave me alone. That was fine, but we'd already organised for me to do something for him, which I am now, and need to ask him something, and he is refusing to respond.

I don't know what happened when he was overseas, he was in contact and seemed fine, but something changed. It is so hard to have known somebody for so long and now be treated so appallingly.

How do you deal with it? I am normally a fairly rational person, but this is sending me around the twist. For the first time ever, I'm wanting to start flooding with texts and emails asking what the hell I've done wrong, but I know that will just make me look like a lunatic.

How do you move on without any closure?

Jul 24 - 11AM
Lacey
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You're not being ignored...

Jul 24 - 1PM (Reply to #26)
what.a.mess
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Great point Lacey!

Jul 24 - 9PM (Reply to #27)
Janie53
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What a mess

Jul 24 - 11AM
outoftheashes
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Have to reach your "enough" moment

Jul 24 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Striped
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I guess that's where I

Jul 24 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
Lacey
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He's not worth it, regardless

Jul 24 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
Striped
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Thanks Lacey :) I have

Jul 25 - 9AM (Reply to #8)
Lacey
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Going forward

Jul 25 - 4PM (Reply to #9)
Striped
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I am really struggling with

Jul 25 - 4PM (Reply to #10)
what.a.mess
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He is trying to regain control

Jul 25 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
Striped
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Thanks what.a.mess. I feel

Jul 25 - 5PM (Reply to #14)
Lacey
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No, he's not

Jul 25 - 10PM (Reply to #16)
Striped
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'Striped, he's not

Jul 26 - 8AM (Reply to #17)
spinning
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Striped, I know you are

spinning

Jul 26 - 4PM (Reply to #19)
Striped
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Hi spinning, I just can't

Jul 26 - 6PM (Reply to #20)
ItsFinallytime
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When dealing with a Narc, the

Jul 26 - 6PM (Reply to #22)
Striped
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All I can say about my past

Jul 26 - 7PM (Reply to #23)
ItsFinallytime
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I don't want to presume for

Jul 26 - 8PM (Reply to #24)
Striped
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Yes I have wondered if

Jul 26 - 6PM (Reply to #21)
Trixy
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what IFT said

Jul 26 - 9AM (Reply to #18)
ItsFinallytime
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Thank yih for this, Soinning.

Jul 25 - 5PM (Reply to #15)
what.a.mess
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Ditto to what Lacey said!

Jul 25 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
Trixy
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I really feel for you Striped

Jul 25 - 5PM (Reply to #12)
what.a.mess
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Dear Striped

Jul 24 - 9AM
ALH
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What Trixy said

Jul 24 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
Striped
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It's not really possible to

Jul 24 - 7AM
Trixy
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you accept you have to