BEFORE & AFTER MAKEOVER

I couldnt agree more...my life has changed so much... NO having to check my phones to see if they are working...COS HE HADNT PHONED OR TEXTED AGAIN... WRAPPING UP WARM IN THE COLD[WE HAVE 70/80MILES GALES HERE AT THE MOMENT....HAE WOULD SAY DO YOU HAVE TO WEAR SO MANY COATS, JACKETS HATS, YOU LOOK SO ORDINARY WRAPPED UP LIKE THAT!!!! NO SITTING *OUTSIDE* COFFEE SHOPS IN THESE WINDS, CATCHING SOMETIMES 6/7 COLDS A YEAR, COS HE IS SO FAT HE DOESNT FEEL THE COLD.... NO SULKING, WHEN I USED TO SAY I AM GOING HOME NOW!!!! WHEN HE CAME TO MY HOME, HIM SAYING THAT TV IS NOT LOUD ENOUGH/TOO LOUD, PULL THAT BLIND THE SUN IS IN MY EYES[AND I DID IT!!!!].... THE LIST IS ENDLESS, SO I WILL END WITH THIS.... LONG MAY HE CONTINUE TO TURN HIS BACK TO ME AS HE HAS BEEN DOING SINCE I BLOCKED HIM ON F/B.....HE KNOWS ITS OVER, I KNOW ITS OVER, THE WHOLE TOWN KNOWS ITS OVER....I WAS TOLD I HAVE CHANGED TODAY.... I HAVE...MY PEACE, AND CONTENTMENT SINCE I HAVE BEEN AWAY FROM HIM, WELL I COULDNT PUT A PRICE ON IT.... I HAVE THE SERENITY PRAYER ON THE WALL.... I HAVE ACCEPTED WHAT I CANNOT CHANGE...ITS EMPOWERING INDEED....

Love this, well done all of u who have posted, u really r an inspiration! and gives us hope that the world is better without the Narc!!!! I have spent the past 6months down in the dumps, but now, with the new year, i am just about to move into my new home with my daughter, and have decorated it exactly how i wanted (which the narc wouldnt let me in our house!), have joined weightwatchers, am going to join a streetdance class, and have arranged lots of nights out with my bestest friends and family. Life is for living, we have spent far too much time trying to be good enough for a person who isnt even worth our time! Lets live! xxx:-)

Life after Narc.. There is one.. Hunter

I love this post - it's so inspiring. The quote ' Be your own dream' is just spot on! I think I was caught up in fantasy land with the narc but soon realized it was up to me to make my own dreams come true! Part of the reason I was originally drawn to the narc was because he seemed to do lots of things with his life. This inspired me to make changes in my own life to live it to the full. Life isn't just going to happen - you have to make things happen yourself. On this narc free journey I have made lots of new friends, met some positive inspiring people, got fit and gone well out of my comfort zone, and it has acted as a distraction to stop me thinking about him. Post narc I have gone surfing in Morocco, joined a gym and go 3 times a week, go to zumba, go cycling with a group of women, volunteered at Glastonbury festival, am in the process of getting my podiatry qualification updated, spent a month in Cornwall, and also most importantly found an inner strength through what felt like going through a bereavement and now realise my life is up to me and I have to make wise choices about who I want to have in it. I am so aware of red flags now and before I would've put up with them, now I have less or zero tolerance to people if they do not have good honest intentions. Maybe the narcs came in to our lives to teach us a lesson and help us grow. Strange as it may seem I do feel a different person - much more self aware and aware of others - and I'm actually ok with how I have come through this awful experience, I am definately stronger. Although I never want to repeat it!! Keep up the good work everyone! Life really is fantastic without a narc in it!

I am printing out this post, I felt so much hope in my soul when I read it. It made me cry to even think I can really have a future where I enjoy life again. Thank you so much, lots of big hugs to you.

Now: *Joined a gym *Got the internship of my dreams *Found a newfound faith in God *Have been referred to as "outgoing, spunky, great personality" *Got recruited for a job because a woman at my gym noticed how friendly/outgoing I was *Found out who my true friends were *Gained friends from this website (HI KIWI!) *Started eating healthy again *Started caring about my appearance again *Ready to graduate college in May *Reorganized my bedroom, and my life. *Trusted my gut feelings *Saved other women in abusive situations through working at a domestic violence shelter *and MOST IMPORTANTLY: I've found a newfound strength in myself I never knew I had If I had stayed with him, just like you: *my life depended on his validation/calls/texts *Been absent from the present moment and not have truly seen or heard those real people around me. *Swing from ecstasy to despair at his whim. *Hated myself for not feeling good enough for him. *Bored my friends with my repetitive complaints of the endless injuries he delivered *Continued neglecting my body and my life *Did poorly in school *Have panic attacks *Never sleep *Wake up in the dead of night crying and sweating from nightmares of him that caused panic attacks *Felt the need to sleep all day *Continued staying in denial because I had to be to protect myself which caused severe anxiety *Would have gotten more bruises *Would have been raped *Would have been constantly afraid and wondering if he was following me I AM SO GLAD TO BE FREE OF THESE CHAINS! We are STRONGER THAN WE KNOW! xoxoxox *hugs*

Love this and so happy for you!!!!

Fast forward 6 months - that is where I hope to be... May the New Year keep us all strong and centered within ourselves and away from our NARC's - cause they are going no where - fast!

My Sentiments Exactly!!!