Advice/Information From Your Therapists/Counselors Regarding NPD

How old is your daughter M? Of course you know the crying meltdowns are really over his control and manipulation tactics and her feeling like she is walking on eggshells to keep daddy happy. She will already be aware on some level that 'it is all about him' and not about her as it should be. I don't know what your custody agreement is but is there any way you could reduce the amount of time she spends with him? Are you the primary parent? Your laws in US are very different to where I am but it would be worth talking your options through with a good family lawyer - one who is educated about NPD - or they just won't get it! There is an email facility for co-parents in volatile situations called Our Family Wizard, again you could take advice from a lawyer on this. Document everything with dates and times regarding your D's visits and her reactions afterwards. keep texts, letters and emails and document any conversations. Keep everything. If you are primary parent then it should be your choice whether your D should be in therapy or not - of course he doesn't want it because deep down he knows he is the cause of her anxiety. Could you take her without him knowing? My ex has no clue that I have our eldest in counselling - it isn't a part of her life she wants to share with him. Only other suggestion is to keep working on yourself to recover your strength and sense of self, therapy if you can afford it? again with a good therapist who is well educated in personality disorders. The stronger you get, the less nonsense you will take from the narc. Good luck M to you and your daughter. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran "That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4