A letter to the OW
A letter to the OW
Dear OW,
You and I have never met, but we have more in common than you may know. For starters, it would seem we shared a boyfriend for nearly a year. That’s just the first thing we have in common, and not even the worst of it.
If your relationship with him was like mine, you’re not doing too well right now. After a year of hot and cold behavior, random disappearing acts, and all manner of mixed signals, he just up and left, didn’t he? He didn’t say a word to me about it. I just got back from vacation to find him gone. There’s no doubt in my mind that he withheld from me his plan to relocate just to hurt me. Maybe he spared you this final dig. I sure hope so.
I’ll never forget the day I found out about you. I had suspicions I couldn’t explain so I did something I swore I’d never do; I went through his Facebook page to find out about you. He never said your name to me – not once – but I had seen your name on his IM and there was just something that made me wonder. When I went to your page, I no longer had any doubt what was going on. I didn’t sleep for two full days after that. I couldn’t stop crying long enough.
The thing is, learning about you is the very best thing that could have happened. You have two little kids, and they are absolutely adorable. I couldn’t bear the thought of being any part of a situation where those little angels would be hurt or where you would be hurt. I imagined you learning about me like I learned about you and I just felt sick. Seeing you and your kids gave me the strength to do for you what I couldn’t do for myself: walk away.
In a different life, you and I could have been friends. From what I saw, you are a beautiful, smart, kind woman with everything in the world going for you. I hope you found the strength to move on without him on your terms. I truly hope you HAVE moved on and not been drawn in to some kind of long-distance, half relationship. If you have, you should know that he’s still trying to contact me. He wants to apologize, wants me back in his life – God knows WHAT he wants. But he wasn’t loyal to either of us. We both deserve better.
I hope you’re taking care of yourself and healing. I will never send this letter, because when it comes to you, it is my greatest wish that you never know I existed. I would rather you think he had a job opportunity that he just couldn’t pass up, was heartbroken to leave you, and the relationship ended on as positive a note as possible. I wish you freedom from the kind of heartbreak that has plagued me for the past few months, if that’s at all possible.
Sincerely,
Ally
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OnlyChild
So true!
Ally
Ally
I am bumping this up, just
NP - you just made my day
Hi Ally!
Hi NP
nice letter
Nice letter :)
I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller
Exactly
This is a beautiful letter
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