FOR THOSE WHO HAD REALLY PERVERTED NARCS (HELP ME)
FOR THOSE WHO HAD REALLY PERVERTED NARCS (HELP ME)
I want to first say we have to remember to not get GRAPHIC, as much as I want to share what he said I have to be careful, just know he was a real sicko and I need help understanding something in the aftermath from those who suffered from their perverted wrath.
I was the OW, of course in the beginning he was MR GENTLEMEN and MR PERFECT, and he and his GF were off and on and it wasnt a serious relationship, ha ha ha after awhile I realized why is this man still with her , this is wrong I WANT OUT, but he wouldnt let me leave and months escalated into years and you ALL know how that goes. She had her own place and he had his and all the while he was promising me a future they were building a new home together and making the big step to live together.
I would be described as a refined woman, almost shy in some ways sexually, of course when I was single I wasnt a nun I was just a normal woman, but I was always true to whoever I was with, I wanted what most people want a trusting, giving, sharing relationship with someone that loved me and above all true to me.
Towards the end of our contact before I really went totally NC he did his best to degrade me. I would tell him we got 6 inches of snow and he would say, I have 6 inches for ya, I would say, I am growing my hair out and its really getting long and he would say what about the hair under your arms and below (but that is not how he said it. EVERY SINGLE thing I said to try and have a normal conversation he would turn into perversion, EVERYTHING, I even would say how have you been, in which he would say I would be better if my you know what were ..... bla bla you know the rest... then he would start on his sick fantasies what he wanted to do to me, rape, choke, force,.. the last time he said that I stopped him and said, why do you do that, isnt there one redeeming quality in me you see besides my body parts, and his response: "Did you forget to take your anti psychotic meds today?" Thats a good one isnt it, him asking me about anti psychotic meds, I should have said ya I quit taking them I sent them in the mail to you.
I am haunted in the aftermath, how and why he saw me in this way, he talked to me like I was a hooker that worked the streets when I am the COMPLETE opposite of how he treated me, but OMG how he tried to take a good moral woman down. There is nothing good or moral when you get involved with a sexual predator (but of course we find out too late) I tried with all my abilities to show him love and the good qualities I had but none of it mattered to him he only saw me for what he wanted me to be to him. I am every bit as much as his GF is, wonder why she was the madonna and I became his sick perverted OW relationship? AND NO I never gave in to ANYTHING he wanted us to do and I know that is why he D&D'd me.
A good friend of mine said to me not too long ago, how would you react if you got a call from a heavy breather you didnt know on the phone and he started saying all these sick things he wanted to do to you and then hung up. I told her I would probably Laugh and say ewww what a sicko, gross. Then she said well he is no different only that you loved him once not knowing what he was and thats why it deeply hurts you. Now imagine his poor GF as she is fixing him dinner and giving her life to this man as he is calling up other women and saying these things when he is out running errands or whatever.
Its just really really difficult to know you were only seen this way even when you realize IT WAS THEM and the disorder, and I guess thats why they call it being a victim.
Madonna/ Whore complex
momoya
"No man is as lonely as his secrets"
neverlookback
This is where their grubby
You've been sexually
Thank you one and All You are all such fantastic smart women
Awesome Revelation
They sexualize everything, it is evil
They lie, pervert, they are sick, stay away from them.
Whoa
being turned into something you aren't
Projection
BINGO
yeah, it's so twisted
Turning the game against them....
Neverlookback,
Great point of "how many of your values you could give up"
Thank you also
neverlookback
thats it
cause
It's about degradation and control...
Jen,
neverlookback
jen79
I felt
OMG
OK neverlookback
GREAT
Neverlookback