It is starting again.
It is starting again.
I knew it was coming----I felt it last week. He has begun to make contact in the most "benign" ways after 5 months of complete silence.
Sunday was his daughter's birthday. She does not talk to him anymore. He must have been feeling "pain" from this so he visited a friend and had the friend make contact with me on his behalf, communicating a very sad story about his health-- the reason I had not heard from him. It said "he wanted to be alone"...
I was strong and did nothing. It made me more angry that after 5 months he had the friend contact me, instead of doing it himself.. I think he was hoping I would be the one to make the first move and call and inquire about his "health" which I did not.
Today the mail came and my son brought in a letter that had both of our names on it. It was a very nice letter telling us what he had been up to (omitting the fact that he has been living with his girlfriend...) It said nothing about his "health"
My son read the letter before I got to it and said to me, "oh, we must call him or send an e-mail". I told my son that would not be necessary, he replied that I was "being cruel"..this is exactly what my N-man wanted to transpire.He had a very nice relationship with my son who idolized him in some ways. He never had the chance (lucky) to see his bad side, as he did not live with me. (lucky, again)
We have been through exactly the same overtures on at least 2 other D&D cycles, where I eventually got worn down and came around so I know this is what he is hoping for. I am not going to respond to the letter. Unfortunately, I know from experience that he will start sending gifts now to both my son & I, and we can not return them to sender, because we have no idea where he actually lives.
I have told him on numerous occasions not to send anything more to my son or me.
This makes it so hard -- I know he is manipulating me, but when I don't respond it looks like I am the bad person. I know this is a N-game, right?
He knows I can avoid his e-mails and text by blocking, but I can not move and that is why he sends things here. Even if I take the packages out and throw them away, my day is ruined when I see them.
That soft part of me comes out and I remember the good times, I need to remember only the toxic stuff so I can keep him away.
I am so disturbed. I am going to take something to calm me down.
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Thank you-Barbara
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Yes, neveragain..
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