Pseudo-Intimacy. The Biggest Red Flag?
Pseudo-Intimacy. The Biggest Red Flag?
Someone posted an article the other day that listed out all of the traits of a Narc, with pseudo-intimacy being one.
I'm wondering if that is the biggest red flag to watch out for.
It seems all of us had those love at first site experiences with the Narc. And fell into intimacy very quickly. For me, I bonded to him more quickly than to anyone in my life and he was asking me VERY personal questions shortly after we met.
I thought this is because we were "soulmates". I bonded quickly with him, because we were "meant to be together".
But then lately, since we had been spending every day together - all day - I could see how he was acting like he had known people for years when he only had a few encounters with these people. He would say things that were far more personal/intimate than the relationship warranted. And in his chemistry.com emails with women he hadn't even met, he had shared way to much information about what was going on in his personal life and fake-bonding with these women way too early.
Of course, this is what caused EVERY woman to think they had "finally found her soulmate".
And I think for me, this was one big clue that there was something really OFF here....bonding and sharing happened way too quickly with women he hadn't even met!
Did you guys notice this too? When you look back on it, do you think this pseudo and rapid intimacy is one of the biggest red flags?
I didn't see it as a red flag
I missed the red flag as
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loveofmylife
If not the biggest red flag . . .
"This is a red flag a lot of
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Yes loveofmylife ... my narc
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