Connecting with the "ex wife" - not for everyone but in my case it's been a godsend!
Connecting with the "ex wife" - not for everyone but in my case it's been a godsend!
Hi everyone,
I haven't been on in a long time. I just got a job, having been writing non stop, AND i did a (for me anyway) brave thing and reached out to the ex narcs, ex wife (the girl immediately before me). Now i didn't know what to expect, I thought i might get a "screw you ogram" or even no reply. But in my case, becoming friends with this woman has helped me, and in turns out, is helping HER in leaps and bounds. What i found out was:
She is just LIKE me personality wise, career wise, "trust" wise, and even sounds like me on the phone.
It has been 3 years since HER break up with him, and going on 2 months since MINE, and even though she has MOVED ON in a sense, she still needed closure from her nightmare with him. And since we all know there is NO closure possible at least in getting closure from the NARC, we find we are getting closure from each other - and happily discovered we really like each other, and that has nothing to do with him.
I found out he did the SAME things to her (but MUCH worse as they were together for four years as to my 2.5), down to the texting with no reply, the "making you feel guilty about standing up for yourself", and even down to the same lines he used on her.
Funny, we don't trash him much, although we have shared some much needed relief from our situations with some good jokes, BUT just the fact that there is someone else out there who experienced HIM, makes it so much easier for both of us to get closure WITHOUT him. Does this make sense?
Anyway, I just wanted to share this with you all, and it's a step that anyone wanting to try it, proceed with caution, like i said, in my case I got very lucky - i think it was fate that we become friends.
Anyone else have a similar story?
I was contacted by my xNs x
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