Distraught

I agree with all the posts on here. He only did it knowing it would upset you. They can't have a wonderful life because it's all lies and in their heads and they only feel good bringing someone else down. They're fricking assholes! I know that call hurt you and I'm very sorry for that. The pain can be unbearable.But try to look at it this way..he had to call and tell you those things & who knows if they're even true but try to picture him as a little boy running to tell someone a make believe story just to get attention. As a grown man that picture to me is pathetic and laughable! How immature! I remember one nite telling my xN how messed up I had let my life become and it's why I needed to move away. To get away from that lifestyle. Told him I was like Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall when he goes away from his family and gets involved w/drugs, sex etc. Now this came from deep in my soul because I was in a very bad place and you know what the N did? He looked me straight in the face told me I was frickn crazy and laughed his ass off. Prick!

This is why we go NC and this is why it is forever. They created havoc in our minds with simple words, gestures, actions and expressions. Once you are aware that they are a Narcissist, you senses are on high alert. This creates a physical and emotional response with in us. Fight or Flight Response. This keeps us in a constant confused state and severely hinders our progress. Complete NC is the only way I will post more on this subject. Please stay close...xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Two weeks after we split my exN went out of his way to let me know he was happy and he had met someone else also adding that he was going to treated her better then he had ever treat me.(they moved in together after four weeks) Two weeks after that he went out of his way to let me know he didn't think he had ever loved me and I just laughed to which he added 'oh I have really missed your laugh, we have been through so much together' (no you put me through so much and I let you) which is not only cruel and unnecessary but if you were so happy why would you bother to phone someone you never loved to tell them this if you were 'sooooo happy', let's be honest you'd be just getting on with it. He went out of his way to flaunt her in-front of mutual friends and really had a point to prove, lying to them telling them he was working and earning mega bucks. Later I found out the guy he said he was working for had made it clear to people I know that he would never give him work again because he is very unreliable. I believe it's all about envy and supply. They want you to feel envious of them. ExN txt me when we split 7 months ago 'it eats you up doesn't it that I am happy and moving on without you'. After I'd had treated him like family he threw it all back in my face and that's what I got for my lot...nice. You done really well to be polite but not engaging but try your very hardest to keep NC even if he calls and catches you unaware. Just sound very bright and breezy and say I can't talk now I'm in the middle of something and put the phone down. NC is hard at first but distance give you clarity and it has worked so well for me.

dont believe it, just think about it for a moment, why would he ring you, you have been nc, well this is why, he doesnt know what to say next, to get you to interact with him, exn, used to do this, after weeksormonths of not seeing him, he would track me down to tell me.1 someone had asked him to join him in a buisness venture. he never works. 2 he had met a "lovely woman, own home car,and she wanted him to move in immediatly ,rent free, and he felt i should know as we were once such good freinds. 3 a serious illness. i could go on. i relized it is only to get you back to them if you think anything or anyone is getting their attention, that will make you want to go back,as they want us when we are happy with something or someone in our life, they try to ruin.it oh ,he never went into buisness, the woman didnt exsist , and nor did the serious illness. all cobblers, and so is your one talking cobblers.

First of all, do not believe one single word because he is a liar. Second yes he was laughing at you. Do not allow him to do it. Third, next time shut down the phone as soon as you recognize the voice or he will start to harass you at work on regular basis. No contact. Go back to work and work well. You are valuable both at work and outside. Don't let him treat you like shit.