Red flags - people really will tell you who they are
Red flags - people really will tell you who they are
So I had a 1st date last night. Met the guy at a club in last week. One of my girlfriends had seen him around for years. She is married, so never really talked to him.
He is a good looking guy - 41, Columbian (I knew he was Latin, just not what), seemed soft-spoken and polite when we met.
So the red flags, in the order they occurred:
1) Asked if I wanted to get married again. I told him eventually I wanted to spend my life with someone, but am not desperate or rushing into anything. He said he had a really bad marriage and "hates" the word "married". Ding! (at the time I am thinking that everyone copes with divorce differently)
2) He travels a lot for work and talked about going to "titty bars" in Japan and how gorgeous the women are - imported from Russia, etc. DING!
3) After a few drinks, during dinner, he tells me that he made a huge mistake when he was married. And he cheated - with a PROSTITUTE! He talked about how she was 20, gorgeous, etc. He said he felt bad and told his wife about it, which is why she left him. DING - hello - you PAID a girl for sex!
4) Apparently he used to have a HUGE gambling problem. But now it is under control. DING!
5) He told me a story of a Columbian woman who flirted with him in front of her husband. Long story short, he ended it with "Actually, if her husband was Latin, he would have hit her." DING DING DING!
In addition, he leered at women while we were out. He talked about how women my age with kids are 2nd tier in his country (bc of baggage) and they are EASY, said something about "women should not have a 6 pack" (was he calling me fat? I am like a size 2!). It was sooo strange. And his eyes got very intense a few times.
He walked me to my car, brief kiss goodbye. He wants to see me again. Because he was right there, I said yeah sure. But NO WAY in hell am I going out with him again!
It goes to show - some people really will tell you who they are. In the moment, I didn't think much of it. As soon as I left, I called a girlfriend, texted others, and they were like WTF? They had no idea he was like that - but they didn't really know him.
I am so glad that for the 1st few dates I don't let guys pick me up at my house. I wouldn't want this guy knowing where I live!
Now avoiding him begins! LOL!
Talking about previous gfs
Wow Amy, you got all this
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
No first date here...
silly me
I would share the red flags
ahhhhh
Mine asked me if my mate was
After all those DING DING
I think this is so cool
Err
Amy
Exactly! or "he just hasn't
Peace. J
Yeah, all the others run
(To the Narc:) You need to
haha!
Ohhhh can I have his number
Amy
smileyfacepr
He just texted
OMG!
You are so right
I think its kinda funny how
That's a lot of ding ding
True Confessions
Some more true confessions
Wow. If only they all would
OMG!
hitandrun
Smart Girl YOU!
yeah....