some words of support or advice?
some words of support or advice?
Hi Everyone,
Haven't been posting too much lately as I've been overwhelmed. My STBXN has set up a meeting between lawyers and my bro-in-law (who is also an attorney) to basically try to convince me that I and my attorneys are being unreasonable in our expectations of a divorce settlement. Manipulation??? Anyway....I go in about one hour for the "conference". Get this: STBX calls me this morning and says "I am sincerely sorry for some of the things I've done". Like what? I say.... "like not giving you enough time to deal with YOUR problems before we separated. I can't help the way I feel, Jane."
I made the mistake, maybe not, of saying that I didn't think it was ALL my problem and he said "You've lectured me for years and I won't hear anymore of it." Hung up. (In my mind all I have ever done is try to get my feelings heard and respected. NOT lecturing, not bitchy, but when he says things like this it gets me doubting myself all over again.)
Forgot to add, most importantly, that initally he said (because we have another settlement conference today) that he "hoped I would be open-minded about his offer because he really can't continue to work this hard". I said I didn't think that was really my problem which is then when he said "You know I can't keep working this hard so you need to settle or it will just cost us both more in court. Your attorneys are misleading you to expect more than is reasonable and this will hopefully save us both more money."
We are supposed to be in court next Tues. and Wed.! Talk about last minute maneuvering. And trying to get my own Bro-in-law in on it so that HE can convice me I'm being unreasonable. "They can't make me work, Jane". Yeah. Ok. Try to fuck me again.
"I'm sincerely sorry that I didn't give you more time to work on your problems."
Oh ladies, I didn't sleep last night and now court coming up and todays" conference. I'm a wreck. So so worried about my future because I truly don't feel able to work due to physical illness and chronic disease.....unfortunately not well documented enough right now to get much from the claim, but it is true. Send good karma please. I'll keep you posted. Thanks so much. CM
Cassiemay
cassiemay
today and thanks
Keep Believing In YOUR TRUTH
cassiemay
cassiemay
Dearest Cassiemay it is
Cassiemay
cassiemay - narcs do this on purpose!