Another AHA Moment!
Another AHA Moment!
So I was thinking about when my ExN contacted me saying how he was sorry, loves me, misses me and wants me back. I told him no and proceeded to tell him how I would not take him back because of how he treated me, he pushed me too far, and that I have no feelings for him anymore.
The main thing I was thinking about was his response which was simply "oh okay I understand this provides closure and can we be friends?" it was like there was no emotion to what I said. Wouldn't a normal response to someone who won't take you back be disappointment or sorrow, or even remorse of what they have done to a person you claim you love and/or miss so much. A normal person would not jump on the bandwagon of being friends that quickly...which shows they feel nothing!
Looking back on the "apology" it was so scripted. From the mind of the N I guess its something like this: you won't take me back as a partner which is fine with me because I never really loved you anyway. However, if I can get to be friends with you I can still use and abuse you.
So he says "oh you can call or text me anytime you want" putting the ball my court so I thought. He then tried to call me a week later while I was at work, (I didn't answer) I was very weary of his intentions...especially because he initially put the ball in my court. Him calling me twice while I was at work shows they don't care that you are working, because its all about their needs. He did that when we were together, and I would tell him Im working, will call you on my lunch break and it took him awhile to understand that.
This all happened before I researched what an N was. So I am sharing this as a realization that the ExN just wanted me back to use me whether it was in form of being his "romantic partner" or "friend" they don't care what "relationship" they can abuse or use you in, as long as they can use and abuse you period.
I know Ns are not normal at all, but I just thought about this situation and it was another piece of this confusing puzzle. Its amazing what you realize and what comes to the surface when you think about all your interactions with the N.
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