When will the dreams stop?

Yeah I did that, dreams of s.x with him yuk (can't even write it) I did go to a spiritual healer and however nuts this seems she gave me a few things to do. No joke they stopped and there was a real change in my attitude towards him, I feel indifferent to him now can't be bothered to even get angry most of the time. Anyway, I'll tell you what she told me to do: To stop his voice entering your being write his name on some brown paper, put candle wax over it and put it in the freezer. This is to freeze his dialogue For having him not enter your dreams write the following down in big letters in this order and put it under you bed. SATOR AREPO TENET OPERA ROTAS Have no idea what it means and she's not a witch doctor or anything. The other thing is to close down your 7 shakra's every night, hold your hand over each shakra whilst lying in bed and close your hand like a flower closes at night over each shakra to shut down and not let him in. Hope you see a difference, I though yeah right but I'll do it anyway and I can't believe there was a big shift for me. Worth a go anyway.

I left my N almost one year ago. We had limited contact over the property & the divorce. He found a new woman very quickly, which was a secret from me, so I never had to deal with him wanting to reconcile. Just nasty e-mails. So I had it much easier than many because I really did not miss him. Dreams, nightmares, & nightsweats. Tortured. Generally dreams where he is being himself--angry & controlling, that is, abusive. Sometimes I dream about his mother who I really liked & was very close to. Never spoke to or saw her again. For months I was exhausted because I had a nightmare, woke up for hours, fell asleep again, another nightmare. I still have dreams about him but not so awful as before. I cannot always remember. I, too, wonder when it will all end. Nobody can really understand what it means to have been embroiled in a pathological relationship. They don't call them "malignant" narcissists for nothing. They just seem to get inside of the victim & then become part of her & then rapidly consume all he healthy bits--just like a cancer cell, of the body but diseased & growing out of control and destroying the entire well-being until death. How to excise the memory of the pathological? If I could write that book, I could make a fortune.

yes yes have dreams about him having sex with many other women, same here, horrible dreams I have cried in my dreams wake up and actual tears are on my face. This man hurt me sooo deeply it will always be with me - dreams about betrayal and deception, hey that is what they are good at

All their manipulation in its peculiar variety as it turns out seems to have a huge impact on us, and comes out in dreams...yes,,I actually have dreams about having sex, him dominating me, him at some other woman's house,,all very vivid,,and I write them down when I wake up because it is so vivid. There was a point when I was screaming in my sleep saying " I need to help bla bla,,I need to help him make money,,I need to help him in business,, and would moan out loud like I was having an orgasm".,,,all this my friend told me, he even said I mentioned his name in my sleep! It is a mystery, but they have us so captivated, so enthralled with them, they connect to some part of us that I don't understand,, but it is like a hyper arousal. I have been 10 months NC, still have the dreams,, and seem to "sense" him sometimes,, like imagining things he would be saying to me,,it is really weird, and think it is their way of still trying to control you even after you have exposed them. I think its great that you are doing all the positive things,,,be strong... I actually listened to the radio and somewhat smiled for the first time yesterday, in over 10 months... They have a huge, negative impact on us,,it can be overcome with positive action, thoughts, dreams of what we personally want to accomplish and experience, and then doing it! They cannot control us!!! It is getting better, it is a slow process...

This was happening to me for a very, very long time. I was on antidepressants, which reacted horribly with me. Made me feel loopy. They are also addictive, and it takes awhile before they work. Tried Ambien. Wound up going to the Mayo clinic because it messed me up so much. The doctor at Mayo said that Ambien does not allow you to go to the deep levels of sleep and therefore, it doesn't not allow your brain and body cells to "regenerate". It starts making you anxious and tired all the time. He switched me to Trazedone, which is a mild form of an antidepressants. This, to me, was a miracle drug! It gets you to the deep levels of sleep, it is not addictive, so you don't need to take it every night - only when you feel like it. And it increases your serotonin, so you start feeling better overall. I think this drug truly saved my life and it worked within the first few days.

I recall having frequent dreams during the first few months but at one point, they stopped. My dreams were not sexual but they were about him leaving me during times of trials. I know that my dreams were directly related to my disappointment when he didn't come see me when I was literally battling for my life. I resented this so much that it carried into my sleep. You mentioned in one of your posts that at one point, you had a Madonna complex based on his sexual behavior. Perhaps you have deep resentment that is carried into your sleep/dreams?

are you in therapy? short term antidepressants? I used this for a while too: https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?ii=125196&c=cart&aff=21165&ejc=2 ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller