The Only Way Out is Through

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#1 Sep 29 - 2AM
Ellie Ray
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The Only Way Out is Through

I just have to say that the only way, the absolute only way to get over a relationship like this is to fully confront every single emotion you were running from by staying with him. Every single horrible truth, every pain in every single brain cell that can feel pain, every memory, every last memory has to be faced and felt and put to rest. I have spent so many nights with a stomach in knots crying, wincing, living the reality of the ways I had been hurt, the ways I had allowed myself to not see, the things I had ignored and lied to myself about in order to move forward. It's horrifying and I know I'm not done yet. It might not be every night in a row, it probably shouldn't be. But it's many nights, here and there, until you've fully faced the truth of it all. And as long as you're being real, you're not getting drunk or finding different men to hookup with, as long as you're spending time alone, with you and only you, and truly facing all of the monsters you ran from for so long, counting on both hands until you run out of fingers how many girls he cheated on you with, until you do all of that you will never be able to let go of him. When he comes back, because no matter WHAT, he will come back, if you have been doing time the right way, confronting the truth of it all, taking him back won't be an option. It isn't for me. I still cry, I still pray, I still wonder how and when it will all be over. And even though I miss him more than I have ever missed anything, I know now that he is just a facade. I know he never loved me the way I deserve to be loved. I know it wasn't me. He was lucky to have me for as long as he did, but that time is done now. I have spent too much time facing the emotions I ran from. He can never have me back now. I am no longer in the dark. I am in pain, but I am in the light.

Oct 17 - 1PM
Goldie
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Sounds like

Oct 4 - 7PM
brinamarie
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This post is amazing and the

Sep 30 - 7PM
Janie53
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Ellie Ray

Sep 30 - 2PM
ZanShin
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Damn straight

Sep 30 - 7PM (Reply to #18)
Janie53
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Zan

Sep 29 - 7AM
ItsFinallytime
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You nailed this Ellie Ray.

Sep 30 - 3PM (Reply to #16)
trixies_time
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So true about origins..

Sep 29 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
Ellie Ray
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That too :(

Sep 30 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
spinning
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I love this thread, Ellie, and

spinning

Oct 1 - 10PM (Reply to #4)
Ellie Ray
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Thanks Spinning, and everyone

Oct 2 - 7PM (Reply to #14)
celine43
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Don't know if it is worth it

Oct 17 - 3AM (Reply to #15)
Ellie Ray
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Wow :)

Oct 2 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
trixies_time
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the moments of sad will get smaller, and the happy, bigger.

Oct 2 - 5PM (Reply to #12)
MyTurnToBe Free
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Two Lives

Oct 2 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
Janie53
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Ellie

Oct 2 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
ItsFinallytime
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The difference is that if you

Oct 2 - 4PM (Reply to #10)
talktothehand
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Recovery Is A Choice

Oct 2 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
Ellie Ray
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Thank you again

Oct 4 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
ItsFinallytime
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Thank you for your kind

Oct 2 - 4PM (Reply to #7)
violet (not verified)
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To Ellie Ray

Oct 22 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
Ellie Ray
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Thank you Violet